Divorce question

[FightingTheFoo]

Hope people don't mind my asking this, because I'm not looking for advice, I'm mostly curious.

My parents divorced when my siblings and I were adults and it's been pretty horrendous but the one thing I'm grateful for is it didn't happen when they were younger with the potential for step-parents/siblings/blended families etc.

If you separated from your partner because you grew apart/fell out of love/resented them - basically any reason other than abuse or an affair - how much did you think about the fact they might go on to have another family with someone else and the impact this could have on you and your kids - basically being tied to somebody else's family or a stranger parenting your kids?

Is this something people think about before divorcing? Or are people more focused on the divorce itself than what may happen after?

I thought about it. And really didn't like the idea. Then my MH just got worse because I was so unhappy. In the end that was the residing factor.

Ex hasn't met anyone else so no idea if and when I'll have to deal with that. I have a DP, thankfully his child is a lot older than mine and we don't have to do 'contact' as I admit, I'd hate it and meeting a man with younger children would put me off and stop me merging lives. He accepts my DC though and is a fantastic male role model. Not dad or step dad, but another man for them to look up to and it's doing them the world of good as, whilst ex is a good dad to them, he's very different from DP who is much more of a do-er and likes to get kids involved and learning things.

Hardly anyone in my family has the same parents or even been married so blended families have always been normal to me, although I initially didn't want that myself.

Thank you for taking the time to answer