If you habitually put a "x" at the end of your messages, what do you think when other people don't?

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

So, I've been pondering this for a while and though I'd put it out there...

I don't normally put a kisses ("x") at the end of general messages. I will if I am messaging DP or DS, or sometimes family/friends if the content is right (ie. not for a general "what time do you want to meet on Friday?" type message, but possibly for a "hope the first day of your new job goes well!" type message)

Some people seem to put an "x" at the end of every single message they send. I have no issue with this - each to their own and all that. However, now I'm starting to worry that if I'm messaging a kisser and I am not kissing, do they think I'm a rude cow? For example, if I'm messaging someone I don't know well, like a mum of DS's friend, or a Facebook seller and they end every message with x, I feel like I should do it too or I'll appear rude or abrupt, so I quite often do change my messaging style, which feels a bit odd.

Am I overthinking? If you are a message kisser, what do you think of us non-kissers? Do you even notice?

I never put x on the end of my messages. I'm not a kissy sort of person.

If I know the person socially or they are family I'll put a x. However I don't read in to it in the slightest if I don't get x's in return

I’m always rather startled when people I don’t know well (DS’s school friends mums) add xx to their message! In the same sort of way as being called Love by a random stranger does. But then I am foreign.

Nothing x

I get embarrassed that I'm doing it and think they're too cool or think I'm an idiot.

For me X is a safe bet (possibly a manager or colleague I know well), Xx or Xxx are for my loves (friends, family), and xx or xxx is for more mundane conversation with afore mentioned loves. More recently I haven't, I blame Covid for becoming complacent. If others didn't I probably still would but I am unlikely to be offended by it!

Friends and family yes.
Colleagues, managers, any males I'm not related to, strangers when selling on fb then no.
My sister never puts kisses/emojis either and I know she doesn't mean anything by it but I feel like it comes across as a bit cold and blunt too.

I only put an x to those i would actually kiss in real life. So DH. Sometimes.

I do wonder why people do it. I feel like I missed the x memo because it seemed like one day nobody sent an x unless you were actually being romantic, and the next you were getting an x from any person.

I have friends in the xxxx camp and friends in the no 'x' camp. I am in the no but stick a x on the end for those that aren't as it just feels a bit otherwise.

Work colleagues adding xxx makes me want to throw up and I never respond with an x. I have two in my team who do it all the time.

I usually add one or x's out of habit, although I'm not massively kissy/emotional in real life. If someone doesn't add a x I do notice as it seems to be an exception rather than a norm now, but it doesn't bother me.

@DanielODonkey

I only put an x to those i would actually kiss in real life. So DH. Sometimes.

This is my thinking.

It's not meant to be blunt or rude, it's just I wouldn't kiss the majority of people I know, so I wouldn't add a "x" either. If someone finds it rude then that isn't really my issue.

When I moved from the UK to Australia, I realised it's not the 'done thing' in Aus to put xx in a message unless it's a really lovey one with a very close friend. Definitely done far less here. At first it felt really blunt not adding xx

It now feels weird when I see screenshots of messages - eg ones in media stories from the UK, where someone is engaged in dialogue with a tradesperson or similar full of xx.

I have never done it and it's never occurred to me that anyone would be offended by it. That's their problem I suppose.

I only do it for people I’d actually kiss or hug. IRL. It seems weird otherwise.

I didn't used to do it . Then thought it was more awkward to not do it as looks like making a decision to go against the norm. I tend to do it to family and friends, occasional work colleague in a personal conversation but usually choose a smiley face if anything for work people. I think the lack of a x is more of a statement than adding an x though generally. I will sometimes just follow what the person has done that text me (non work)

I don't send kisses and I don't expect kisses.
(Except to/from my parents... they started it)

Nah, as long as someone is consistent I don’t mind. If you sometimes do kisses and sometimes don’t it can (depending on context) give the impression that you’re annoyed when you don’t, but if a person never puts kisses I just assume it’s their texting style.

@BritInAus

When I moved from the UK to Australia, I realised it's not the 'done thing' in Aus to put xx in a message unless it's a really lovey one with a very close friend. Definitely done far less here. At first it felt really blunt not adding xx

It now feels weird when I see screenshots of messages - eg ones in media stories from the UK, where someone is engaged in dialogue with a tradesperson or similar full of xx.

That I don't understand. Colleagues, tradespeople, neighbours... just why? What does it mean? Surely it's not kisses because yuk. So it can't mean a kiss, so what does it mean? Random punctuation? xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I'm an intermittent kisser, normally when I initiate a conversation. Or I put a smiley.

Some people go out of their way I think to perceive an insult in the quantity of xx or lack thereof. Most people I think register on some level who are / are not kissers if that makes sense.

So when grandma Sarah doesn't kiss you don't notice, but if aunt peg leaves them off, you wonder what you've done... except you probably couldn't quite explain how you know.

Sometimes though you do want to say there is actually a punctuation mark designed for the end of sentences, no need to put an x..

I do it with some people, but I don't think of them as kisses!

I'd do it with friends or family, more just showing care or thanks, or something I guess, as there's no other sign off. Usually an initial and an x, as that's what most people seem to do Vx or whatever.

I don't really notice too much when people do/don't send them back. It's more of a style thing really.

Not actual kisses and I wouldn't hug or kiss the people that I sign off that way too. I guess it more shows it's an informal message and shows a bit of affection rather than business

I have a friend who’s not a text kisser even when everyone else in a group chat is.
It’s fine!
I can be a little inconsistent and I do worry that I can come across as abrupt but really i don’t think it’s a massive issue.

I'm inconsistent with my x's too and I don't mind if people don't use them either. My bugbear is exclamation marks after comments like happy birthday

AcornAutumn nailed it

I don't notice or care.

I don't think I've ever put an x at the end of a sentence. I'd feel silly doing it. I don't worry what the other person thinks of me.