The real reason for being in a relationship

seatofmars · 30/03/2021 10:22

Might explain the high divorce rate among lottery winners!

Afonavon · 30/03/2021 10:32

It is an interesting question. I am sure that it is true for some, as living costs have become very high, especially housing.

For me, though, I feel that a lottery win would not affect us negatively regarding our decision to be together. Of course I can’t speak for my DH, but I prefer living with him than being without him.

AlrightTreacle · 30/03/2021 10:32

Not for me. If I wasn't happy with him then I'd move back into a houseshare. I do miss pre covid life and spending more time doing our own thing, going away for long weekends with friends etc, but I probably wouldn't have got through the last year without him. Cheesy to say, but he's my rock and best friend.

Homer28 · 30/03/2021 10:33

And how do we account for all the rich people in relationships? lol

Lastbonestanding · 30/03/2021 10:35

I suppose this could be true in some cases but is probably a temporary rather than permanent arrangement.

JackieWeaverFever · 30/03/2021 10:38

Not for me but it's def a side benefit

3Britnee · 30/03/2021 10:48

@littlepieces

It's for the financial benefits right? Eg. Being able to share the cost of living, and not have to rent a flat with several strangers.

I feel like this is the main reason me and quite a few of my friends are in relationships. Don't get me wrong, we do like our partners, but if we were richer, we'd probably be living alone.

No, for me its sharing my life and experiences. I can pay bills myself.

chipsandgin · 30/03/2021 10:52

Isn’t the point to have someone who makes you laugh & thinks you are hilarious too, keeps you warm at night, to share the ups and downs of life with & all the love, guilt & worry of parenting (or if child free all the fun weekends, holidays and nights out!). To get home to someone gets you & your quirks & who, when you are out with friends can raise an eyebrow subtlety & kindly to say ‘here we go again’ to say they know what you are thinking when your lovely friend tells the same old story for the hundredth time after a couple of wines but you don’t really mind listening again because you love them anyway.

Also, having someone who loves you so much that they when they know you’ve had a shit day they pick up your favourite wine on the way home or bring you your favourite breakfast & a cold coke when you’ve got a hangover because they know you’re feeling sorry for yourself...& someone you’ll grow old with you still thinks you’re beautiful & wants to shag you - partly because the ‘young’ you is etched in their mind & you’re both a bit saggier anyway so it doesn’t really matter & they still fancy you. Who make you laugh until you cry & who hugs you & holds you when the worst bits of life happen. Who watches the kids you made together grow up & who you know is the only other person in the universe feeling the same pride & pure love when they watch them in a school play or see them being kind or funny in company. To be with someone who makes you feel like you are in a team with basically to navigate through all of this - good & bad!?

If you’re just together because it’s convenient- he’s not the one & tbh if it’s just to share the cost of living it’s pretty unlikely to work out in the long term. If, as it sounds, you are still young then bear in mind the years pass quickly & if that’s all you’ve got with the current one it’s probably time to get out & get looking for something or someone that gives you both a bit more than the benefit of halving the electricity bill!!

VaggieMight · 30/03/2021 10:56

This was true for me in my 20s living in London.

TheThermalStair · 30/03/2021 10:58

@chipsandgin

Isn’t the point to have someone who makes you laugh & thinks you are hilarious too, keeps you warm at night, to share the ups and downs of life with & all the love, guilt & worry of parenting (or if child free all the fun weekends, holidays and nights out!). To get home to someone gets you & your quirks & who, when you are out with friends can raise an eyebrow subtlety & kindly to say ‘here we go again’ to say they know what you are thinking when your lovely friend tells the same old story for the hundredth time after a couple of wines but you don’t really mind listening again because you love them anyway.

Also, having someone who loves you so much that they when they know you’ve had a shit day they pick up your favourite wine on the way home or bring you your favourite breakfast & a cold coke when you’ve got a hangover because they know you’re feeling sorry for yourself...& someone you’ll grow old with you still thinks you’re beautiful & wants to shag you - partly because the ‘young’ you is etched in their mind & you’re both a bit saggier anyway so it doesn’t really matter & they still fancy you. Who make you laugh until you cry & who hugs you & holds you when the worst bits of life happen. Who watches the kids you made together grow up & who you know is the only other person in the universe feeling the same pride & pure love when they watch them in a school play or see them being kind or funny in company. To be with someone who makes you feel like you are in a team with basically to navigate through all of this - good & bad!?

If you’re just together because it’s convenient- he’s not the one & tbh if it’s just to share the cost of living it’s pretty unlikely to work out in the long term. If, as it sounds, you are still young then bear in mind the years pass quickly & if that’s all you’ve got with the current one it’s probably time to get out & get looking for something or someone that gives you both a bit more than the benefit of halving the electricity bill!!

This is beautiful! I think you should become a wedding celebrant

HeddaGarbled · 30/03/2021 10:58

Or because it’s a societal norm?

TheThermalStair · 30/03/2021 10:59

Definitely not for me, I would hate to live alone and would rather live with my partner any day than that or live with strangers. He's lovely!!! it's about sharing the cooking too

ColonelPine · 30/03/2021 10:59

@chipsandgin you put that so well. So true!

AcornAutumn · 30/03/2021 10:59

I think it's a big factor OP

In my parents group, there were quite a few couples who didn't get divorced because they'd lose a decent size house

It was the only reason I'd have ever considered a relationship but in reality, I never wanted one. I dated a couple of rich guys but in the end, unless you can be completely honest - and I guess some couples are? - it's too much hassle and is it really my home if there's a bloke hanging around? In my case, no.