Uni child not social distancing

DinosaurDiana · 2021-03-30T07:27:44+00:00

My DD is home from Uni and has been seeing friends and staying over with them. Would you allow her home or ask her to go back to Uni ?

GravityFalls · 30/03/2021 08:29

Anyone who lives with a school/college student (or staff) has to live with someone with no social distancing in their day to day lives, so this wouldn’t be a big deal to me at this point.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 30/03/2021 08:38

It would depend on whether you or anyone else feels threatened by her actions.

What she does when at Uni is up to her. Back with you she needs to be aware that the situation might be different and act like a grown up! Her assumption that because she is of an age she can do as she pleases isn't unusual, she just needs a friendly reminder that she doesn't exist in a vacuum and that others are allowed to disagree with her choices, even veto them!

In short, she isn't the boss of you. So if she argues about her entitlement and you don't want to live with the additional covid risk then yes, tell her she has choices...

EdithWeston · 30/03/2021 09:11

Seeing friends, outdoors is fine.

Staying over won't be fine until May at the earliest (rule of 6 or two households, and the way this bit is written is a little tentative)

With the reopening of schools producing the expected rise in R, going from outdoor to indoor mixing two months would concern me. Especially if it was with many households, and/or different ones every time.

I would set house rules (no staying over, please remain outdoors with friends) and look at return to university if she does not want to live by them. But do this in as tactful and low key way possible - by the summer (fingers crossed) how she wants to socialise will be fine, and so a major row for the sake of a few weeks isn't a good idea

GoneCrazy · 30/03/2021 09:13

Get her to have a lateral flow test before she comes home?

beginningoftheend · 30/03/2021 09:16

I think if they are adult enough to make their own decisions on not following guidelines from government, they are also adult enough to be asked to remain in their Uni residence for the time being.

I wouldn't be happy to take that level of risk with my currently unvaccinated family

They are an adult and have another place to live where they can do as they please.

loulouljh · 30/03/2021 09:18

I wouldn't give a monkies!!!!

Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow · 30/03/2021 09:21

As my job requires me to work in close contact with up to 30 people at a time, in a single room and I've been doing that every day more or less throughout this whole shitshow, i wouldn't be TOO worried!

beginningoftheend · 30/03/2021 09:28

@Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow

As my job requires me to work in close contact with up to 30 people at a time, in a single room and I've been doing that every day more or less throughout this whole shitshow, i wouldn't be TOO worried!

I can understand the sentiment but sleepovers are even worse than school and family members more likely to pass it to you than pupils so I would say a risky family member would increase your personal risk by a very significant percentage.

We all have to get away from the mentality of 'I do x risky thing so adding y risky thing makes no difference' - extra risk is extra risk.

GreenWheat · 30/03/2021 09:30

I really couldn't get worked up about this, but we have no vulnerable people in our household. If you do, it might be different.

JerryMoreIceCream · 30/03/2021 09:43

@GravityFalls

Anyone who lives with a school/college student (or staff) has to live with someone with no social distancing in their day to day lives, so this wouldn’t be a big deal to me at this point.

Both my sons are in secondary school/sixth form and both have to wear masks in class and sanitise their hands. Probably different in primary school.

They also have dedicated areas of the buildings just for them, hardly move classrooms and have separate lunch and break times than all other years.

Dowser · 30/03/2021 10:17

@Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow

As my job requires me to work in close contact with up to 30 people at a time, in a single room and I've been doing that every day more or less throughout this whole shitshow, i wouldn't be TOO worried!

Me neither. Son works as a carer in 20 homes a day and his son works in McDonald’s.. I wouldn’t get worked up about it.

Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow · 30/03/2021 10:20

I would certainly have a chat and say that i was really uncomfortable with their choices, that i wanted them to feel happy in the family home but i didn't like them breaking the law.

It IS your house after all.

GravityFalls · 30/03/2021 11:08

@JerryMoreIceCream - I work in a college. We have masks and hand sanitiser and all the taped off areas and so on, but trust me, there is basically ZERO social distancing between students and anyone who imagines there is (or can be) is deluding themselves. They might be in “bubbles” but within them they sit about 30cm away from each other, they hang out next to each other at break (and at my college in empty classrooms with the bloody windows shut), they’re on buses together and walk home together. It’s all for show! I don’t believe uni students would be at any more risk in particular than college students, based on what I see.

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DinosaurDiana · 30/03/2021 16:28

Thanks all. She’s said we're overreacting, and has flounced back to Uni.

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Moonlight22 · 30/03/2021 16:38

😆 sorted

samsmum2 · 30/03/2021 16:39

I literally wouldn't care. My uni son is mixing with 2 houses and seeing other random people. V happy to have him stay overnight.

skippy67 · 30/03/2021 17:52

My dd has been doing the same. I'm not bothered at all.

Orchidflower1 · 30/03/2021 17:56

@DinosaurDiana

Thanks all. She’s said we're overreacting, and has flounced back to Uni.

For what it’s worth I think you were right. I see she’s solved your problem for you with a very adult flounce! 😀