Feeling emotional about dd leaving primary this year.

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I know there a still a couple of months left at school but I'm already getting worked up about my dd leaving primary.
I feel like the last two years have just been a mess and they've all missed out on so much.

How have the years gone by so quickly!

Anyone else feeling like this already?

Me! DD’s last term of Y6 was such fun. They did so much...a disco, a play, a day at a theme park as a treat. DS is leaving this year and I know it won’t have the same feel to it at all. It really saddens me. Everyone will try to make the best of it, but I think it will feel like a bit of a non-event. There is already that sense of disconnect, which I guess is natural after so much time apart.

DH and I were having the conversation yesterday about how much DS has missed out on. It is 2 messed up years with all the fun taken out of it.

Its fine, and I don't think he'll be scarred - we didn't have this at school in 1980s - but DD left primary two years ago and Y6 was ace - even the bleedin' SATs were a rite of passage.

So yes I'm just sad for him - I try and not say it because he's sad too.

Yes, we're in this stage too. So sad for them. The last 12-18 months of primary school are such a big thing and an important time to grow up ready for secondary.
From the little things that they won't experience like sitting in chairs in assembly instead of the floor and being dinner hall / playground monitors (both privileges afforded to year 6 but not currently happening due to no mixing of year groups), to missing out on their big year 6 PGL residential and last Christmas play. Even things like Bikeability and a Life Skills roadshow that year 6 usually do have been cancelled and I doubt they'll get any chance to catch up with things like this during year 7.
I do feel like my yr6 child hasn't matured as much in the last year as they normally do (understandable) and feels way too young to be heading into year 7 in September. They've asked me if I can beg the headteacher to let them stay in primary for another year!

My dd always looked forward to sitting on the chairs in assembly.

She came home from school one day ( age 5) and said ' mummy the big kids get to sit on chairs like teachers in assembly, can I one day?'

I actually promised her that she would when she was a big kid too.

She was ridiculously happy about that.

All these little things that mean so much to the children.

Now that's started me off again

Ah, I’m sorry. I had a Yr6 last year and it was shit. I didn’t give a stuff about SATS being cancelled but they did - DC even wanted to do the actual tests at home! - and as you say no fun stuff, no Bikeability, no being ‘buddies’ with Reception after the first term - no lead roles in the play (no play!), no residential. No transition days at high school ... it was just a cancel fest and although our school was absolutely fantastic at trying to replace things for them in a Covid-safe way (water fights on the field etc) it just wasn’t the same and could never be got back. Leaver’s Assembly was on Zoom and it was emotional but hardly the same at all.

Hopefully it will be a little better this year than last year. I feel year 6 doesn't really get good until after the SATs. I think that they have missed out too though on going to town with friends for coffee after school.

I felt exactly like that last year.

Eldest DD was in year six last year, her last day was a bit earlier at 8th March (I had Covid symptoms). She never set foot in her classroom again, but they managed a leavers picnic, distanced, on the field. They put their T-shirts on chairs rather than sign them on each others backs.

Those of you worrying about their maturity, I was too, but all the children are in the same boat and that counts for a lot.

DD1 isn't hugely emotionally mature anyway, but from what she tells me of them still playing It at playtime in secondary school, she's definitely not alone.

This last year has meant that everyone has been sheltered, but they will get there in their own time.

I sobbed when my son left his primary,it’s a lovely tiny village school. Second child left that same school last year and what with the Covid measures in place it was a strange place ,none of the years could play together and normally everyone plays with everyone even the little toddlys are included in the big kids game, it was like a big family. I still cried my eyes out, both my hubby and me went to same school,felt so sad.