I absolutely hate my new job. Should I leave?!

[mondayp]

I started a new job 5m ago and hate it. I feel a dread every morning. I so want to quit. I put in a reminder which I completely forgot about in my phone to hand in my notice today which just popped up! I've been wanting to leave after a few weeks.

I just hate all of it - management are crap,my line manager is awful and really stroppy, awkward and picks up ppl including me when she feels like it, I don't even enjoy the actual job either - I hate all of it. The only thing good is that it's part time and close to home and it has a good pension! Everything else I bloody hate it.
DH can see how it's affecting my mental health and keeps telling me to leave but I feel I'm letting my family down.

I've been looking for PT jobs since JAn but can't find anything suitable. I'm feeling really low.

It sounds awful. Being miserable at work is soul destroying. Hand your notice in and step up your hunt for a new job. You're not letting anyone down. I'm glad to hear your dh is supportive.

If you can afford it, definitely leave. I've been in a similar situation and stayed too long. I was so miserable it was almost impossible to motivate myself to look for another job.

Leave. But have you been actively looking for a new job since you realised you hated it? Even getting casual work now that bars etc are starting to reopen would be a good plan while you decide what to do next.

Get out as soon as you can, I have PTSD from my last work environment and it’s partly because I stayed there for too long with a boss who was screaming and shouting and dealing with suicidal clients with no training. Your boss won’t stop or miraculously get better - she will carry on because she has been allowed to get away with it for so long already.

If it’s part time the money it’s bringing in can be replaced by another part time job.

I felt like this 3 months into what should have been the perfect role for me. I stayed 4 years in the end, hoping it would get better. It didn't.

Don't be me. Four years of misery.

Thank you, everyone. I thought you were a going to say don't quit and wait till you find a new job as the current job climate is great at the moment. My dsis is insistent if be making a huge mistake!

Unmute totally understand about the feeling unmotivated for job hunting. I don't even want to think about bloody jobs right now.

I've been looking since Jan but I need part time and that's the thing thats really is the issue. There's hardly any jobs pt. There's absolutely loads full time. Ooh I'm not sure what I'm doing.

Another saying if you can afford it, quit! There's nothing more soul destroying going to a job you hate

I have just left a role after 8 months, which reduced me to tears on many occasions. I don’t job hop - my previous role was for 12.5 years and I would still be there if they hadn’t made us redundant - so that was a big deal for me.

I have found a new role, it is less money but I am so much happier at the moment and actually sleeping through the night! If I could have walked out of the last role without a job I would have done so. Being unhappy at work is horrible.

It's op here!

I came across a thread today about someone hating their job and I'd forgotten that I was in a similar position too.

Thought I'd give an update as a month after this thread I handed in my notice. I felt awful and really really low. I had no job to go to and felt I had let my family down as it would affect us financially. We were just trying to make ends meet as it was. This was a huge blow. I was worried I'd made the wrong mistake. It was a decent job with a really good pension. I'd be losing it all.

But I knew it was affecting my mental health and DH just wanted me to leave as he saw how it was affecting me.

I left in may and focussed on my kids and on me doing the things I hadn't got round to doing. After the initial couple of weeks of feelings of regret, the fog began to lift and I felt so much happier. I was me again and I knew that it was the right decision.

Long story short but a couple of months after I left a manager from a previous job got in touch and asked me to work with them again and that's what I'm doing. It's great here and the main thing is I'm happy.

Theres just too many of us working in awful jobs with horrible bosses and toxic environments. I don't understand what is wrong with people and why they are so hell bent on making others lives a misery.

Hi OP so nice to hear that it worked out for you! I’ve been in horrid work environments myself and it’s just not worth it.

I was going to say- and it’s irrelevant now as you are sorted- I also had the part time problem. However I applied to a FT job not really knowing if I could do it and by just dropping in conversation that ideally I would do PT they facilitated that and here I am. Jobs advertised as FT will definitely sometimes take on staff PT. I’d been out of the industry for 4 years so def not that special!

Ah well done! I've just changed jobs and I feel so much better, my old job wasn't making me miserable as such but I didn't enjoy it and my manager was nice enough but had no interest in their staff. The thought of being there long term (I started last Feb) was quite depressing so I knew I had to do something.

I've changed department and my new manager is great, the work is really interesting and varied and I'll never be bored. Such an improvement on where I was before. Glad to hear things are on the up for you too, well done for making the leap!

Thanks for the update, and glad it worked out!

fab that you made the leap op

So glad you moved! I left a soul destroying job (crap management and very demoralising) and although my job now can be stressful at times, the management is great and the team are really nice: a million times better.