Azaylia Cain

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I can’t stop thinking about this poor little girl. My heart hurts for her family. I know she’s not the only child fighting a life threatening illness but she’s all I’ve thought about today.

Sorry if this post upsets anybody that is familiar with this little girl.

Who are these creepy people coming on here accusing us 'competing to be sad' with one another? How truly odd. Why would anyone want to do that? Is having empathy something some people just don't have? If people express theirs with others who feel the same way how is that competitive?
Truly truly odd. Either these people are haters of the family or they're just trolls who have no empathy.
You don't have to feel sad, no one cares, go back to your life and let us express our own feelings without you stone hearted people who don't even look at the situation before commenting.
It's very normal for mothers of small children to show empathy to other mothers. It's also normal to feel empathy for babies without being mums because well people are ... human.

Ashley looks tearful all the time now. They both look exhausted. I'm so sad for them. We don't know them personally but they seem loving parents.

I check twice a day. It won't change the outcome but if I could do anything it be wanting the number and dad to know so many people acknowledge the 3 of them. Acknowledge that we care.

@Saywhattttttttttttt

My post wasn't aimed at the baby's family, i'm not a hater of the family at all and of course it's a horribly sad situation. But the way some people are acting on this thread is ridiculous, calling yourselves 'empaths' doesn't make your behaviour any more normal

Your behaviour is not normal. Actively coming on a thread to tear down and insult people who are clearly struggling with seeing a baby die and a family lose their beloved child. I bet you posted ‘Be Kind’ and advocate mental health yet you are literally the problem. You are not qualified or have been asked to judge anyone. You are not important here. Please bow out of this thread and try to retain the small amount of dignity you have left. Thanks.

@gratefulmum1

Honestly people just go away. You are so so weird. Speak to your GP. Remove yourself from this thread, you are not welcome.

Apologies for the ‘people’ Everyone, my son was feeding as I was typing - it was for Saywhaattttt and their attempt at insulting people 🙄

Sorry lots of typos in the previous thread as I'm feeding baby at the same time, won't bother correcting it for that poster anyway. Can we get the nasty posts deleted please Mumsnet? If the family ever look back at this it would really upset them that there are people who can't empathise with them or can but just a fraction and not the whole way .....

I have been so sad about this poor family. I can't imagine the heart wrenching pain they must be suffering. I have a wonderful child, perfectly imperfect, and I have never been more grateful for her.

I have made a donation to CHALS to ensure that every child who needs it (however awful a concept it is) receives the gentle, kind, loving care they deserve at the end of their life. I am in awe of Azalyia's parents, whose child will never know anything but love.

If love were enough, she would be with us forever.

I haven't bad mouthed the family at all so there would be nothing to upset them.

[quote NicoleKidmanSuperFan]@Saywhattttttttttttt how do you know we haven't donated and messaged the family too? You're off your rocker my dear. Please free yourself from this evil inside you. I have reported your nasty behaviour. You're ruining such a beautiful thread! [/quote]
Well said lovely. So glad Mumsnet have stepped in, thank you to the admin. This should be a safe space for people to talk without judgement to other mothers who might be feeling down and want to share it anonymously without bringing it to our families. I appreciate having this space to talk so much (and if the previous negative poster took a few minutes to read the previous messages in this thread they would see we discussed how we donated, messaged the family, signed up to donate blood / bone marrow etc.)

Back to Azaylia..

@Saywhattttttttttttt

I can totally see why people find this sad, but the over-the-top outpourings on this thread are what would be expected from people who actually know azaylia and her family. Of course its sad but you do know you don't have to 'watch her slowly die?' You can just stop refreshing instagram constantly for updates and focus on your own life and loved ones.

People behaved like this online about Charlie Gard as well, the reality is their lives carried on after he passed away and they quickly got over it, stop trying to pretend that you are so upset that it is having a huge effect on your life. If that is true you really need to take a step back

Nobody is agreeing with you, honestly, just bow out. You don’t have to keep responding. You have given (unsolicited) advice about not having to watch their stories on Instagram. I’d urge you to take the same advice for this thread. You’re done here.

I’m not sure I understand the ‘competitive sadness’ comment; we’re all individuals with our own experiences/lives it seems logical that this will age t people in various ways.

Would it be more suitable to you if we were all an equal amount of sad? That it affected everyone in the exact same way and we posted the same things? Is that more realistic, I don’t know what you mean by competitive sadness really.

They maybe the first time most are seeing what this type of care is like, are you not allowed to be sad at the realisation of what it means?

You do know this is a public forum not your own little private chat, you don't get to shoo me away

Age = affect

Thanks MN for deleting the comments I’ve reported the others that are nothing to do with the concept of the thread.

I’ve said lots of times (apparently people are struggling to read) if you’re not hear to support people that have been personally touched by this little girl, please don’t comment and please leave.

You’ve got no idea about people’s personal circumstances that are on this thread and upset. We’ve had people who have been through or knew people that have gone through this and a friend of the family on here.

We’re sad and for our own MH need a place to say ‘we’re sad’ without judgement as we’ve stated it’s not something IRL that we’re comfortable with showing our full emotions. It’s not for everybody and I wouldn’t want to upset my friends and family with it.

We’re absolutely not pretending to be sad and we’re definitely not being competitive with it. We fully understand what we feel is not even 1% compared to her family and it’s sad that we have to explain to you when we don’t have to explain it to each other because it’s obvious.

We don’t want to debate it, we don’t want to argue, we literally just want this one thread to share our emotions and talk about the good the bad and the ugly. If you can’t understand it, it’s absolutely fine but again I ask you just not to comment.

If everyone on the thread could just not reply/ quote them it makes it even easier and MN will delete them and we can just pretend it never happened 😀

@Saywhattttttttttttt does it matter though? Is it hurting anyone that a group of people are talking in here about how it makes them feel? I’m not sure what you hoped you’d gain from your posts other than pissing people off. If you don’t like what you read, nobody is forcing you to. Just move onto another thread.
This thread was started as a lot of people were feeling sad in a similar way. Some more than others, some are dealing with it differently. Whether you think that’s right or not really doesn’t matter. Just leave it be.