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How can I shake myself out of this and feel better?

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YouDirtyBertie · 28/03/2021 18:24

Very long story short. During the worse time of my life - very unwell with PTSD which I still suffer from a situation happened.
I was basically ‘bullied’ if that applies here?
Worked in a well known university in an admin job whilst I was also doing a masters and looking after my 2 dc. It was a horrendously racist and bitchy environment but I was super nice and tried to keep my head down. That didn’t work I was treated like shit by the whole team.
During this time I was in another horrible situation on my street my neighbours kids were causing lots of anti social behaviour and I shouted at my neighbour to control her children which basically ended up being the neighbours kids ramping up their behaviour and very much targeted my house. Group of kids hanging outside, kicking the walls, swearing, being abusive.

Somehow I managed to finish MA, land my dream job, move house renovated it and I love where I live now it’s beautiful and peaceful and safe for my dc. I’ve got my lovely friends and made lots of new friends here too.
But that whole time it’s coming up in my mind 2 years on and I still feel really sad about the whole thing. It was all so unfair and it’s dented me.
I should be really happy my circumstances are a million times better but the effects still hurt- how can I move on?

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YouDirtyBertie · 28/03/2021 18:28

Not sure if it’s clear but the ptsd was before the other things happened not caused by it.
It was due to an injury to my little boy.

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YouDirtyBertie · 28/03/2021 18:57

Bumping for any advice

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BoomTastic1 · 28/03/2021 18:59

Not sure if I have any advice but didn't want to read and run. Time helps a lot. Remember you don't want to look back in two years time and feel that you have been stuck or held back so try and focus on making the most of now. They robbed you once, don't let them rob you again Flowers

YouDirtyBertie · 28/03/2021 19:02

Thank you Boom that’s very true.

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YouDirtyBertie · 28/03/2021 19:57

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AtrociousCircumstance · 28/03/2021 20:01

Have you had a chance to have any therapy? Sounds like you need some support working through the effects of everything that happened.

But agree with Boom - time really does smooth things over and give us new perspectives. You will heal, but extra support will help the process.

Well done on turning your life around!

Doyoumindfisithere · 28/03/2021 20:02

Hi - firstly Flowers as you had two genuinely terrible situations.

I think PTSD is not unusual after a situation like this, and to have two simultaneously I think you deserve a medal for getting through adn escaping.

It is very common to keep going until you reach safety and then to fell the after effects.

I advise counselling or possibly EMDR (google it).

And be really kind to yourself - you have been through a lot. It is totally natural to not feel happy just now even though you 'should'. Partly it is fear it could happen again and partly the sapec to feel terrible. I had a really tough time myself and was told it is normal to feel worst afterwards. This helped me to understand myself.

Doyoumindfisithere · 28/03/2021 20:03

Oh the typos!

adn = and
fell = feel
sapec = space

Honestly Blush

Frownette · 28/03/2021 20:09

It sounds like you need some support, speak to your GP.

Also try to think of everything wonderful that has happened, children, MA, friends, new living environment.

YouDirtyBertie · 28/03/2021 20:15

Thanks all I had some cbt for the ptsd whilst all this other stuff was happening but I’m waiting for emdr as the ptsd is still an issue.
The gp has been good I’m on sertaline 100mg which helps .
Everything is good and so much better- I need to let this all go. I am much happier than I was so so much better but it still niggles maybe that’s just normal though?

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AtrociousCircumstance · 28/03/2021 21:34

It’s very normal. Now you are in a place of safety you are able to start processing.

Talking therapy where you get to pour your heart out would be great for you too I bet.

Parkerwhereareyou · 29/03/2021 07:07

@AtrociousCircumstance

It’s very normal. Now you are in a place of safety you are able to start processing.

Talking therapy where you get to pour your heart out would be great for you too I bet.

This. You are finally in a space where you can take this out, put it on the table and look at it. And you're upset by what's happened. Very normal. Of course you are.

But now you need to accept it, pack it up and put it away.

You may need support with the packing up. Sounds like having someone to talk it through with could be very helpful.

And remember this:

'They robbed you once, don't let them rob you again'.
Yes.

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