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Anyone else feel like they need a break from kids?

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milasmuma · 26/03/2021 20:59

Anyone else starting to feel like they need a break from kids? I feel bad for saying it but not had a night off since March 2019. All the weekends away we've had we always brought the kids.

I look terrible and run down manky old pyjamas and loungewear everyday, constantly telling the kids off or begging them to eat their dinner.
Also working from home so I don't even get that break. It's exhausting!

Anyone else feeling this way?

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Heartofstrings · 26/03/2021 21:01

I always feel the need for a break. I work 40h over 4 days and am tired.
The eldest has some SEN and needs constant supervision. He is always harassing his little brother. They are 3 and 4. Husband is away this weekend and I'm actually dreading it

oohmama · 26/03/2021 21:05

Oh yesss
I haven't had a night off since my eldest was born over 5 years ago

I LOOK HAGGARD And I'm not even 30 yet 😭😭😭😭
Infact that's all I've asked for for my 30th... one night off

Home schooling nearly killed me
Planning on ringing the doctors soon to talk about medication to help my low mood

Toomanymuslins · 26/03/2021 21:06

Depends what you mean by break ...?

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MumofPsuedoAdult · 26/03/2021 21:10

Yes. And I don't feel bad for saying it.

TheOneWithTheBigNose · 26/03/2021 21:12

Yes. I have three, and haven’t had a night ‘off’ since before my 2 year old was born.
I just want one night!

Toomanymuslins · 26/03/2021 21:13

Who would have the kids? Do you mean you going out and leaving them with their dad or other family?

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milasmuma · 26/03/2021 21:13

@Heartofstrings it's so tough I feel for you!

My ideal break would be a week off doing what I want to, lots of sleep nice healthy food and fresh fruits, have someone cook every meal for me. Massages and facials nice big bath to soak in,long walks somewhere scenic. Peace and quiet really somewhere with no noise. Oh one can dream!

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milasmuma · 26/03/2021 21:14

I don't think a night of would cut it, I need a week to recharge my batteries! Leave the kids with their grandparents Grin

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TheOneWithTheBigNose · 26/03/2021 21:15

@Toomanymuslins

Who would have the kids? Do you mean you going out and leaving them with their dad or other family?
I’m guessing she doesn’t mean leaving them home alone 🤷🏻‍♀️
Easterbunnygettingready · 26/03/2021 21:16

Today at 230 pm I savoured my last quiet coffee. 5x dc home for most of 2020.. Just regaining a bit of me time and they are off again.
Hope the Easter Bunny is very generous before I start shifting the Covid bulge...
*in theory...

Toomanymuslins · 26/03/2021 21:18

Well I know that bignose! I wasn’t suggesting anyone would.

But leaving kids overnight with someone else isn’t something I’ve done so was curious.

qualitygirl · 26/03/2021 21:21

Yep! I'm off on a holiday for a week (maybe two 🤣) with some friends...as soon as I can!! Cannot wait!

megletthesecond · 26/03/2021 21:21

Always. But I'm a lone parent so it's pretty normal. I've get one night a year off if I'm lucky. And that's always a work night.
I plan to take a week off work when the DC's are finally at uni.

Fembot123 · 26/03/2021 21:24

I’d just like to at least be in the house alone just once.

Toomanymuslins · 26/03/2021 21:26

I hear you on that fembot

More from DH than kids, though.

Fembot123 · 26/03/2021 21:27

@Toomanymuslins

I hear you on that fembot

More from DH than kids, though.

Yes! 😂😂
Cindersrellie · 26/03/2021 21:28

Argh yes! We used to use grandparents for overnight breaks regularly... not for over a year now Sad can't wait for those hotels to open up again!

Happycat1212 · 26/03/2021 21:45

Yep but I’m a lone parent to 4 under 10 and their dad is absent. I never get a break. I was mentioning it to my mum the other day how I never get a break and haven’t done since my youngest was born (4 in May) and she said you do get a break, I had them 4 years ago 😂😂😂🤣 the worst part was she was being serious.

DareIask · 26/03/2021 22:13

IMO parents need a break in normal times. In the last year parents need a break as well as a medal WineThanks

MissCrowley · 27/03/2021 07:08

🙋🏻‍♀️ I'll join in.
We actually live with my parents and they helped out once in the Christmas lockdown for 5 hours... so I could work.
The rest of the time I was juggling homeschooling and working whilst being told how bad it was that my youngest can't read yet.. (5 years old and has missed a lot of school due to the pandemic ffs!)
I think it's worse when you actually have people around but they could give less of a shit that you're struggling.
Kids have only just gone back to school and they're off again which means more trying to work from home whilst making sure they're not killing each other and trying to find things to do with them on days when I'd like to just be in a room and not talk to a soul.

Norwaydidnthappen · 27/03/2021 07:49

Yeah, I’d love one too. Homeschooling the second time around nearly broke me. I found it difficult last year but it was also new and fresh so exciting in ways. This time I was a nervous wreck- barely sleeping, suffering with stomach cramps and loss of appetite just through sheer stress. I’ve felt so much better since they returned to school but now they’re off again for a fortnight and I’m dreading it! It’s difficult not actually being able to do anything with them other than go on bloody walks. I have too many children to ever fit into the ‘rule of 6’ as well so won’t even be able to meet up with anyone.

IamChipmunk · 27/03/2021 07:56

Norway, the guidance from 29th is rule of 6 or two households outdoors including private gardens.
So you can meet another family outside...

Tiredmum100 · 27/03/2021 08:14

I'm actually missing my dc at the moment. I'm working full time and finishing my graduate diploma so I feel like I'm neglecting them a lot and hardly spend any time with them. But I totally get where you're coming from. Would love an adult evening out. Dc use to go to grandparents twice a year for a sleep over so me and dh would usually book a restaurant or something. Lock down obviously put a stop to that 🙄. My dc are 7 and 9. When they were younger I definitely needed more of a break. I like the fact now they wipe their own bums and get their own drinks and snacks!

Hfjshdhs · 27/03/2021 09:30

Yep. My DH and I have agreed that once hotels are open we will both take a solo 24 hours away and the other will look after the kids. Just planning mine has cheered me up (spa hotel in Brighton, long run along the beach, dinner out and maybe a sea swim).

DinosApple · 27/03/2021 10:25

I work as a teaching assistant, so I have my kids all evening and morning, then have 30 others during the day. The second I clock off I have my own DC back. The long holidays are fab though and DC are much more independent at 10 & 11 than a few years ago.

I do go out for a 30 minute run at 6am at the weekends, but other than that DH is out of the house from 8am-7pm every single day.

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