Does anyone else inadvertently say stupid things to people and sometimes wish they could just hide themselves away and not speak to people?

[Purplespider]

So throughout lockdown I have had a break from cringing at myself for the stupid things I say. I am so terrible at small talk. I often seem to inadvertently say something insulting to people but realise the second it comes out my mouth. I just was saying how much my child was looking forward to real activities starting back as she isn’t enjoying the zoom version at all. Then suddenly remembered person I am talking to has been organising zoom activities for brownies throughout lockdown. As soon as I say it, I think how awful it is of me, they are trying their best and putting the own time and effort in to it. And I never seem to be able to backtrack and cover it up well. I really should just try and stick to talking about the weather.

I do this all the time.

Best way to deal with it is to remember that you are not the main character in anyone's story but your own. No one else is obsessing about that odd thing you said last Thursday because eleventymillion other things have happened since then and it wasn't that big a deal. Other people aren't judging you harshly because you are really not that important to them.

I am not good at practicing the above. I spend a lot of time in inner-cringesville.

Try to remember to say something nice and complimentary to the person next time, and move on.

Thank you. I tell myself I will do better next time and off I go again! Putting my foot in it straight away! I wish I could talk more easily with others