Would you think differently of your partner after this?

[Iworry2021]

So we went for a walk in the park last weekend.

I don't remember how we came to talk about it, but my partner revealed to me that he was a bit of a bully in school.

I asked him how he bullied people and he said him and his group of friends e.g. forced other children to share their food with them or interrupted a football game to mess with their ball.

He said he also sometimes stood up for bullied children and that he regrets some of his behavior at school.

I don't know what to think about it, I was severely bullied at school and still deal with some of the psychological effects as an adult.

How would you feel if your partner confessed something like that to you and would it change your opinion of them?

Has he ever said sorry to any of the kids for whom he made life hell?

I'm not sure. I think it depends on what he's like as a person now and if he's remorseful. Some horrible kids grow up to be horrible adults and that's just the way they are. Not everyone is good. Sometimes it can be as a result of their own insecurities and negative things that have gone on in their lives and impacted them in a way where they take it out on others. I think you should talk to him about it more and let him know how it's made you feel.

Thanks everyone for your advice.

He seemed genuinly remorseful and I suppose we've all done things we're regretful of.