Any positive experiences to share

[nina97]

Oh god, I'm really struggling here... I'm so miserable. After a largely happy, content, satisfying career I've ended up in a role where i am struggling with the manager.... My body has been on fire since the first day i met her and it's consumed my life 😭... I've tried, think gaslighting, where you cant say what it is but its the sly digs...

I've given myself a date that i am leaving, albeit will be so sad to leave the team i manage....but can anyone please tell me they walked for the sake of their mental health and it all worked out ok..... I need a rainbow of hope 🌈😢

Nina97, yes have absolutely moved on because of appalling and actively vindictive Senior Management team. They were like professional assassins. It was awful. Once on the other side , you will regain your personal and professional confidence again. I vowed life was too short to ever be in that torment again. A cliche I know, but it truly felt that way.
I'm not going to lie, I still have painful memories of the situations and downright injustice, but they are transient ...or 2am insomnia moments.
Get yourself out of there as swiftly as possible, you'll recover from this.

I faced bullying in the workplace (not just towards me it was common for other girls to get it too). It resulted in me having multiple panic attacks in the toilet every day and going home and drinking a LOT of whiskey. Then I had a death in the family, the bailiffs after my car for something I didn’t even do and personal stress and one day with having these panic attacks I just broke. I emailed my supervisor and told her I was struggling and that I was going home. I got my stuff and left.

I had the day off and ended up writing on a public blog about what I was going through. It gave me the strength to leave. Three weeks later I handed my notice in and I was so scared. I ended up unemployed for two months (no car and living at my mums sharing a bed with my daughter in a flat with no electric or heating) and I got out every day in nature with my reduced bread and hummus and carrot sticks and no make up and took my laptop everywhere and wrote a book and it was the most humble and gratifying thing I’ve ever done in my life having that freedom. I wish I could go back sometimes to those days where I was stripped of everything but now I don’t take my job or my happiness or my ability to pay bills for granted. In fact, it’s made a saver out of me.

I’m in a job now, new home, new partner and dispute my boss being an absolute nugget it isn’t half as bad as what I was facing in the other job. And it pays better. I’ll never put myself second to a job ever again.

It will get better.

Omg i cannot thank you both enough...I'm just lying on the settee staring into spave, my stomach in knots....iritated by everyone. I thought it was a mental health thing when i started the post and the dr put me on something but I've come to realise this person just makes my stomach turn... And it's not what they say or do (overtly)..... It's that gut feeling of something isn't right here....the wee tee hee...
I was so respected in my old role, which i sadly lost through redundancy so I'm dealing with that grief and thought it was that, but i just can't stand this person... I constantly feel confused at what tbey are saying and doing and then it's like 'ah god you're so confused looking your not to be worried, i can see you panicking' but it's like I've only half the information to do something... They constantly checking in with my team for chats and they are like christ go away and let nina get on with this.... Its consuming my every second.... I want to run away.... I'm so sad and so helpless and powerless at the minute...
I can't tell you what it felt like to see your posts, thankyou so much for reaching out to me.... ❤️❤️

@happylittlethoughts... What was the next chapter?

@themadcatparade..that's so inspiring.... I'm so scared but I can't be sad like this forever.....

No you certainly can’t. And unfortunately the only person that can change your situation is you! I hope you find something soon and it opens many many wonderful doors for you

My job on the other side was great. At the end of the 4 year secondment , I was expected to apply for senior Management roles and I just couldn't. I'd say avoiding the stress and conflict that those jobs involve was a legacy of the bad time. I wanted an undemanding easy life. I have that in my job and all is fine - but I'm definitely underachieving.
Capable of management, but cannot bear the thought of conflict(education- daily conflict).
I'm older so ok with those choices.Good luck Nina. Get out of there and have a happy life

I did it.... Eeekkkkk...I'm slightly (very) eurphoric... Took the cowards way out and said it was personal.... But i think deep down they know.... . Now to close this door and open the window...

Well done Nina, good luck with the next steps.

@thankyou charleymouse! I feel weirdly excited for the future tonight... My brain says i shouldn't be but my heart and stomach say I should be.... Have to keep focusing on that ♥️