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My baby boy is being cremated tomorrow.

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Lillygolightly · 25/03/2021 23:15

My sweet baby boy is being cremated tomorrow morning at 9:15am. He was born too early to stay in my arms as he should have done, and I am so heartbroken.

I’ve only just found out the time and date of his cremation this evening. I though I would have more notice, time to plan and do something special in his honour and to remember him. Sadly that is not the case, so I thought I would turn to the power of mumsnet and ask if all you lovely people could spare a thought and wish my baby boy good luck on his journey to the stars tomorrow. It would just be so lovely and would mean an awful lot to me to know that he is being thought of tomorrow.

His name is Alexander and he was born on 16/02/21 💙

Thank you in advance.

OP posts:
mylaptopismylapdog · 26/03/2021 10:32

Thinking of you and your family as you lay your sweet baby Alexander to rest 💐

Pompom2367 · 26/03/2021 10:32

I will light a wee candle for Alexander tomorrow thinking of you xxx

beingajen · 26/03/2021 10:36

Lighting a candle for sweet Alexander. May it lift him to a better place up in the stars. 💙

JSL52 · 26/03/2021 10:38

So sorry for your loss Thanks

Ninkanink · 26/03/2021 10:41

I’m thinking of your beautiful boy. 🕯

I’m so sorry for your heartbreak. 💐

LateMumma · 26/03/2021 10:42

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'm thinking of you and your sweet boy today 💙

Twatterati · 26/03/2021 10:44

@Lillygolightly - hi OP... just wanted you to know that even though I'm a stranger I am thinking of you and am so, so sorry that Alexander was born too early. I just hope that in some tiny way you will find some comfort from the words of us all on here. So many of us have been through similar and understand the overwhelming emotions, feelings and thoughts you'll be experiencing, and the desperation you'll feel. It feels as though nothing will ever feel right again. We are forever changed by the loss of our babies and the hopes and dreams we had for them.

It feels so desperately unfair and the journey through grief is so unpredictable - we may all have travelled similar roads but everyone's journey is unique. I just hope that you know that over time it will become easier to cope, it won't always feel so raw - you will always be Alexander's mummy and he will always be part of your life and future, he'll always be the older brother of any further children you might have, and the younger brother of any you already have. His existence, so very short as it may have been, counts and will shape you forever. Whilst it all feels so overwhelming right now, take just one day at a time and allow yourself to process your grief. Be gentle with yourself, there's no right or wrong way to grieve, it is ok to feel happiness in the midst of it, and so often we feel guilty when that happens so really try and allow yourself to not feel guilty. Your heavy heart will feel lighter as time passes, you will feel whole again. Forever different, re-shaped but whole again.

I wish I could just hug you now and reassure that it will all be ok again one day. I hope you have support in real-life that can do that for you and just hold you through the heartbreak. Xxx

Whatwouldnanado · 26/03/2021 10:44

Sending love and condolences.

BrendaBlessed · 26/03/2021 10:45

Holding you all in my thoughts Flowers

PopsicleHustler · 26/03/2021 10:54

He is with God now. xxx I wish you all the best , sending lots of love your way

AgathaAllAlong · 26/03/2021 10:54

Thinking of you and of your beautiful little boy.

Vladtheunbaler · 26/03/2021 10:56

My thoughts are with Alexander, and you and his other family. I'm so sorry for your loss. x

cookiecreampie · 26/03/2021 10:58

Although I don't know you I just want to say I'm sorry for loss and I wish you strength to get through this. And remember that he will always be with you.

musketeersmama · 26/03/2021 11:01

Love and condolences 💙

Honeyroar · 26/03/2021 11:13

I’m so very sorry and thinking of you.

Sassanacs · 26/03/2021 11:14

So sorry OP, thinking of you and your wee boy ♥️

BlowDryRat · 26/03/2021 11:22

I'm so sorry OP. No wonder you're heartbroken. I hope this morning went smoothly 💙

ojalaquelluevacafe · 26/03/2021 11:29

Thinking of you and your precious baby, OP. Very sorry for your devastating loss.

Notaroadrunner · 26/03/2021 11:31

Thoughts are with you and your family on this extremely difficult day xx

Trickleg · 26/03/2021 11:34

I’m so sorry. Thinking and praying for you xx

Measureformeasure · 26/03/2021 11:49

I'm so sorry. Sending love to you and your gorgeous boy, Alexander.

dragonsmoke · 26/03/2021 11:59

I'm thinking of your beautiful son Alexander today. Xxx

DodgyPainting · 26/03/2021 12:23

You and your darling Alexander are in my thoughts . There are no words adequate to say at such a time but as you can see so many people are sending you love and strength. Take one day at a time and take any help offered if you feel it might help. My little grandson was stillborn at 32 weeks and not a day passes where I don't think about him or wish i had some magic powers to put him back in my daughter's arms and into his family. Your darling boy will always be in your hearts and in your lives. You will always be his mummy and he will always be beloved. 🌹

Itsamysterytome · 26/03/2021 12:30

Oh love, sending you all the love and kindness in the world Flowers

Daisy62 · 26/03/2021 13:18

Thinking of your cherished Alexander and of you.

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