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Divorce and now a single mum

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Killinthefear · 25/03/2021 22:35

2 weeks before our sons 2nd birthday my husband was laying in bed questioning if he wanted our relationship to work or not. I took the dission out of his hands, phoned his parents and told them to come and get him. Over the years we had been together i had caught him texting other women, had a feeling he was still doing it and I now know he had been doing when we split and he's now in a relationship with her. On 2 pervious occasions I had found out about thousands of pounds worth of credit card debt which he had hidden from me and his mum paid off. On the night he got collected I found his new credit cards which I have since found out have debts on them ( no idea what he spent his money on). I have since filed for divorce and I'm doing OK most of time but he turned up tonight because he got his divorce papers. I stayed strong even when he confirmed his new relationship but I broke when he left. I can't get rid of this sick feeling that I have let myself down ignoring all the signs. The anger and hurt get so overwhelming I can't stop crying although I refuse to let him, his family or my son see this. Has anyone got any suggestions on how to get through this? I want to be the confident, sussessful person I was before I met him but obviously a good mum at the same time. The divorce is simple as all my assets are in my parents names and he can't touch anything of mine (I'm not completely stupid) but I need to fix myself emotionally and I don't know how to do it

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BritInAus · 25/03/2021 22:59

Oh you poor thing. You absolutely didn't let yourself down - you were strong and ended it really quite quickly. Lots of people would stay because it's easier... you sound like you've been really strong!

It's normal to grieve a relationship and what you thought 'would have been.' Tears, anger etc - all so normal. Definitely worth getting some counselling perhaps to work through all the emotions this throws up.

It will get easier, I promise. I'm nearly a year in... have never felt stronger. A bit knackered doing it all myself - but strong!

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