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Things you thought were normal if you grew up working class

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Anycrispsleft · 25/03/2021 08:59

Inspired by that "thought it was posh, turns out it wasn't" thread, I wondered if anyone else remembers stuff from a working class childhood that you thought everyone did and actually no it was just us?

Mine is playing with stray dogs. I was an adult before I realised that approaching strange dogs is meant to be dangerous. In my estate there were two strays (and one owned dog that would escape his garden) and they would chum along with us when we were out playing. We'd feed them crisps. (Luckily for the dogs I think we figured that crisps were more appropriate food for dogs than chocolate, as they were more salty and a bit like meat.) It would never have occurred to us not to befriend any other creature of the street. There was precious little else to do, why wouldn't we add a dog or two into the pack?

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Housewife2010 · 26/03/2021 21:47

Why do people keep saying that immersion heaters are a working class thing? I'm from a middle class background and we had one when I was growing up in the 70s/80s.

MummyJ12 · 26/03/2021 21:48

@OhWhyNot

Mugs of tea with dinner

Having dinner at 1pm

Net curtains (always bright white)

Knowing that you had to be extra polite around some people (looking back mc people) I was always polite but definitely more so my
The better matching tea cups and saucers came out only for some visitors

Totally! I remember the net curtains well, and the extra special crockery! Mum had Eternal Beau, for Sunday lunches, special visitors and Christmas!
Libraryghost · 26/03/2021 21:51

callling every female friend of your mum’s Aunty... !

BlackForestCake · 26/03/2021 21:53

Thatcher was loved by many working class in London and Home Counties.

Bosh bosh, zoom zoom, loads a money.

Ddot · 26/03/2021 22:00

My fella used to buy a bag of bread crusts off the veggie van. I'd never heard of it before, van man must of had a deal from the sandwich factory haha.
Boy at my school, his dad had a car, wow! Dead posh like.
Anyone remember volivonts on special occasions.

Ddot · 26/03/2021 22:06

@Pigwig10
I have one on my bed right now.
Candlestick bedspread

ParkheadParadise · 26/03/2021 22:08

@Ddot

My fella used to buy a bag of bread crusts off the veggie van. I'd never heard of it before, van man must of had a deal from the sandwich factory haha. Boy at my school, his dad had a car, wow! Dead posh like. Anyone remember volivonts on special occasions.
Special occasions in our house were Frozen mini sausage rolls A tin of corn beef or Spam on Pan white bread plain bread was for every day. A gingerbread cake with Margarine on it or an Angel cake. We did have a Bird's Eye frozen sponge for Birthday cakes.
Feefsie · 26/03/2021 22:10

Fresh cream, going out for a meal, being a teacher or a doctor, detached houses

expatinspain · 26/03/2021 22:18

allmyarseandpeggymartin I feel the same. I couldn't vote for them because of my childhood. I still don't really understand why my great grandparents did.

DahliaMacNamara · 26/03/2021 22:19

We were working class like everyone else on our council estate, but considered relatively posh because all the kids in our family did well at school, and we kept our dog in during the day. He didn't always want to stay in; sometimes he'd wait for a chance to nick out and go and play with his doggy pals, but the point was that we always went out to look for him.
Our family holidays were usually spent in our gran's 2-bedroom flat in Scotland. At my first term at university I remember trying to find common ground with another student I quite fancied, and we talked around holidays. When I told him about ours he kept saying 'Yes, but your actual holidays? Where do you go to get some sunshine?' I had no more idea what he was on about than he did about what I was saying. We never got anywhere.

Zolrets · 26/03/2021 22:22

Did anyone mention drinking tea with every meal? I remember going to an Oxbridge college early 90’s. I didn’t miss the hot tea with a meal but when my parents came down they asked for some and I went in search of it much to the bemusement of the canteen staff and the bar man who made some for me but explained he was doing me a favour as tea was for after meals not with. I find it an annoying habit now not because of any working class associations but because prepping and serving hot food is hard enough without throwing brewing up a pot of tea in to the mix.

And yes to the pp’s on tinned salmon -I would not have recognised it In any other format. Also, carnation milk instead of cream,the only pasta I knew came in hoops in a tin, the only rice ditto and it was sweet.

My family didn’t have a phone until I was 14. School treated this as a personal slight when it came to gathering class info. I was more concerned I was excluded from the Saturday Superstore phone in competitions.

Clawdy · 26/03/2021 22:37

I remember the tea with every meal! Always plonked down with the plate of food.

Bellver888 · 26/03/2021 22:38

Provident woman coming round 😂
Shoplifters knocking on with lynx sets and cheese

DenisetheMenace · 26/03/2021 22:54

HappyThursdays

I thought everyone went to the laundrette - didn't realise people actually had their own washing machines!“

We took ours up the road in pillowcases. Particularly skint weekends, it got sloshed around in the bath.

AmberItsACertainty · 26/03/2021 22:54

@okbussitout in the late nineties/early 00's what was going on with me and my mates was stuff like...

Having a basic unfashionable-branded brick phone on PAYG and feeling posh to have even that! Typing in text speak so we could fit everything we needed to say into one message to save money. Paying for multiple messages or calls was too expensive. We didn't text anyone unless it was urgent and couldn't wait or we were arranging to meet up. Mate having a landline pay phone in the house so her mum could be sure of always being able to pay the phone bill.

Skinny mate borrowing overweight Nan's bra during pregnancy, just the one (Nan needed the other one!) and hand washing it to dry overnight. Everyone wearing boyfriend's clothes while pregnant, or another larger relative's if their boyfriend was as skinny as them.

Leaving school and starting work at 16 or as soon as we had our NI number for a few of us. Being piss poor because there was no minimum wage. Having a full time job and a part time one at the same time. My mate having a full time job before she'd left school working most eves until late and weekends.

The only clothes we bought were what we needed for work, owning hardly any going out clothes and everything came from cheapy shops.

Pooling our money and drinking slowly to make a £5 last all night in the pub for us both. We were off men and nursing heartbreak at the time and generally didn't accept offers of drinks.

Watching the MC kids from school (who were still there doing A Levels) being bought a brand new car at 17 after an intensive course of lessons also fully paid for, tax and insurance paid, and given a petrol allowance to go with the personal entertainment/clothing allowance they already had.

Eventually learning to drive in my 20's when I could afford it and buying a clapped out old wreck of a car that sounded like a jet plane taking off and shook so bad you couldn't take it over 50mph and still keep hold of the steering wheel. Wrapping up the battery in cotton wool every night to help stop it going flat because I couldn't afford a new one. Driving around with the window open whatever the weather even lashing rain, because you could have any two of lights, window wipers and demisters, but never all 3 or the engine cut out.

Walking from home 2miles up the hill to the precinct with a pram to bring the booze back in for a party, took forever because toddlers walk so slow. People saying stay over it's fine I'll sleep in with my sister/mum/auntie, because the house is overcrowded anyway and there's no spare beds.

Reading the magazines in the shop during lunch break to avoid having to buy them. Making mix tapes by recording music from the radio. Hanging about in the park or the street because we couldn't afford to go anywhere. Getting drunk on cheap whatever if it was someone's birthday but not being able to afford it as a regular thing. At least it saved our livers.

My mate running out of money before payday, feeding the cat tuna and mince while she had beans on toast every night, going round her mum's to borrow a toilet roll.

Sleeping/sitting on the floor because there's no furniture and social media isn't a thing so no putting out pleas of "anyone got any free stuff, it's my first home?". Saving up and looking in charity shops or the local free paper or Freeads paper when you needed to buy something second hand.

The neighbours, two girls (who didn't officially live there, nobody in that house did, the owner was in prison) coming round with a mug asking for some shampoo because they had a date that night and putting a few squirts in the mug for them.

Walking everywhere possible to save on the bus/train fare, if I didn't have a travel pass. Wiping off my lippy, pulling my hair into a ponytail, untucking my blouse from my skirt and getting on the bus with the school kids who'd been hanging around in McDonalds, pretending to be one so I could get half fare on my way home from work.

Looking after people's little ones while they worked an evening shift in exchange for them giving me tea along with the kids that night.

Going everywhere with home made sandwiches and a can/bottle/carton drink from a multipack, marvelling at those who could afford to buy their dinner whilst out.

Coats on inside the home in winter because nobody could afford heating during the day, only for a few hours in the evening before bed. Hot water bottles at night. Watching TV in the dark to save on electric.

AmberItsACertainty · 26/03/2021 23:02

@Clawdy

I remember the tea with every meal! Always plonked down with the plate of food.
I still have tea with every meal 😂
HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee · 26/03/2021 23:03

Clothes bought down paddy market (flea market now gone)
Free school dinners
As kids Gawping at Kay’s catalogue as if it was the most sophisticated thing ever
As kids Taking Ginger bottles we found lying about to shop for cash
Parents slept in living room as house too wee and we all shared rooms
No foreign holiday- ever

ParkheadParadise · 26/03/2021 23:14

@HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee

Clothes bought down paddy market (flea market now gone) Free school dinners As kids Gawping at Kay’s catalogue as if it was the most sophisticated thing ever As kids Taking Ginger bottles we found lying about to shop for cash Parents slept in living room as house too wee and we all shared rooms No foreign holiday- ever
Paddy Market and The Barra's 😂😂😂
Miasicarisatia · 26/03/2021 23:18

@marthastew

I was the kid who wore home made clothes. All the time.

Waiting on the door step of my friend's house waiting for her to come home from school to play. So I was a pre-schooler out by myself Hmm

Me too! Also was made to wear a uniform in a school where there was no uniform 😳 everyone else wore their normal clothes and I had to wear uniform that my mother had invented and made herself😳 I was left on my own at home while my parents went to work from about age 6/7 onwards which isn't great but leaving preschooler alone, that's shocking ☹️
AmberItsACertainty · 26/03/2021 23:20

@Housewife2010

Why do people keep saying that immersion heaters are a working class thing? I'm from a middle class background and we had one when I was growing up in the 70s/80s.
Maybe they stuck in people's heads so much because of never being allowed to switch them on. Did middle class people switch them on much? In my family it was on a timer strictly half hour in the morning so parents could wash and mum could do washing up. Us kids didn't wash! Then 45min in the evening for more washing up and the shared bath water for whoever was home to get in it. My mum would rage if anyone switched it on at any other time. Nobody dared. Ditto the radiators. I set myself on fire once getting too close to the flame in the fire because I was cold. Put myself out and didn't tell anyone or I'd have been in trouble for not being careful.
Thewiseoneincognito · 26/03/2021 23:23

Playing marbles on a grid 😳

The lady at the end of the street who always had lots of male ‘friends’ visiting her every day

Playing outside until 11pm in the summer

The sound of the police helicopter when it stays in one place for a good few minutes, every other night

The scruffy bruised dirty kids who were probably abused 🥺

Asking all the neighbours to sponsor you whatever you were doing that time

The indoor market cafe always stank of cigarettes

McDonalds after swimming

HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee · 26/03/2021 23:30

@ParkheadParadise ma took us shopping at paddy’s market, we had to tell our da the stuff was shop bought or he’d have had a fit

AmberItsACertainty · 26/03/2021 23:33

I've remembered another one. The use by dates on food, which were always ignored. I was amazed the first time I saw someone throwing food away because it had reached its date. In our house it only got thrown away if it was mouldy or looked slimy or smelled bad. Sunday's roast chicken would still be getting used for meals or sandwiches on Friday. Bread wasn't around long enough to go mouldy. There was occasionally something unidentifiable and furry at the back of the fridge.

OhamIreally · 26/03/2021 23:33

@RaelImperialAerosolKid

I remember at my grandparents house we had ripped up newspaper instead of toilet roll. And electric wires from appliances were just pushed into the sockets and held in with matchsticks - those were the days !
That's just reminded me that when you bought appliances years ago they didn't come with a plug- so you would have to go to Woolworths and buy one and wire it on! Seems incredible now I remember my mum teaching me how to rewire a plug and telling me it was a life skill I would always need Smile
ParkheadParadise · 26/03/2021 23:33

[quote HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee]@ParkheadParadise ma took us shopping at paddy’s market, we had to tell our da the stuff was shop bought or he’d have had a fit[/quote]
😂😂😂