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Things you thought were normal if you grew up working class

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Anycrispsleft · 25/03/2021 08:59

Inspired by that "thought it was posh, turns out it wasn't" thread, I wondered if anyone else remembers stuff from a working class childhood that you thought everyone did and actually no it was just us?

Mine is playing with stray dogs. I was an adult before I realised that approaching strange dogs is meant to be dangerous. In my estate there were two strays (and one owned dog that would escape his garden) and they would chum along with us when we were out playing. We'd feed them crisps. (Luckily for the dogs I think we figured that crisps were more appropriate food for dogs than chocolate, as they were more salty and a bit like meat.) It would never have occurred to us not to befriend any other creature of the street. There was precious little else to do, why wouldn't we add a dog or two into the pack?

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AngelsWithSilverWings · 26/03/2021 09:08

Having your wedding or any 21st birthday in the local community centre.

Every wedding I ever went to as a kid took place in a community centre or church hall so when I got married I never even thought about a fancy hotel or golf club like my more middle class friends did. We could have afforded anything we wanted really but our wedding was cheap as chips even with a free bar all night .I still wouldn't change a thing about it as everyone seemed to have a great time.

The other thing I remember was my mum always having a cardboard box in the bottom of her wardrobe which she would gradually fill with tinned and dried food throughout the year. This was the food she was saving for our annual camping holiday.

The tinned salmon which was kept in case we had visitors for Sunday tea. My Mum was always very thorough with the removal of the bones but we went to some houses for tea where they just kept all the bones in - I was horrified.

SleepingStandingUp · 26/03/2021 09:15

We lined plenty of shoes with cardboard because they'd worn a hole, tissue in shoe toes so they'd fit cos they were hand me downs etc. I couldn't imagine getting my boys to do that now and we're Def still WC.

Ice on the inside of the window. I thought that was normal in winter but I mentioned it to DH recently and he looked at me like I was crazy.

ClearMountain · 26/03/2021 09:15

I heard one of the older girls comment on my reaching out, and I was mortified!
That happened to me several times when I was in my late teens. Posh people I met through college and university commenting on my lack of manners because I’d never been taught. We didn’t have a table to eat at so I had no idea about passing dishes or waiting till everyone was served. I’d never been taken to a restaurant so I had no idea about when to order or what to do with your empty plates. In the end I got a library book about etiquette to educate myself. Now I follow an etiquette expert on Instagram and I still learn stuff that I should probably have known since childhood.

SwayingInTime · 26/03/2021 09:19

I had the brown and beige check bedding that Renton detoxes on in Trainspotting!

TheTurn0fTheScrew · 26/03/2021 09:19

Yy to a rented telly, hiding from the council rent man, and buying clothes of dubious origin from shady geezers selling door to door.

Also, the Meat Raffle.

FearlessSwiftie · 26/03/2021 09:36

Sharing a room with other family members. I never had a room of my own and I was surprised to know that all of my friend did.

ReceptacleForTheRespectable · 26/03/2021 09:44

@TheTurn0fTheScrew

Yy to a rented telly, hiding from the council rent man, and buying clothes of dubious origin from shady geezers selling door to door.

Also, the Meat Raffle.

Aaah..... the meat raffle!

Still going strong in a pub I frequented not that long ago (2010s).

VienneseWhirligig · 26/03/2021 09:54

Going to the working men's club and having a go on the blackout, and the fish man coming in with cockles in a polystyrene cup. I miss that.

Foxhasbigsocks · 26/03/2021 10:06

@ClearMountain my dp never went to a restaurant until he was at university amd didn’t know what to do with the napkin.

Frickssake · 26/03/2021 10:11

What does this mean?

Going to the working men's club and having a go on the blackout

Frickssake · 26/03/2021 10:12

Having concrete underneath the swings and climbing frame. Also, what's happened to the rocking horses pork pie roundabouts and "the big slides?"

ReceptacleForTheRespectable · 26/03/2021 10:23

I think some people are confusing WC with 'general stuff that happened in the 70s /80s'.

My DH's family ate at restaurants and never bought clothes from dodgy people selling door to door. They were MC. But they did use the old fashioned rides at playgrounds because that was what happened in the 70s/80s regardless of socio economic background.

ClearMountain · 26/03/2021 10:24

Never asking for seconds because there wasn’t any
It still horrifies me when DH helps himself to seconds, even when there is some left. Like, that’s another meal we could eat tomorrow! And when he touches everything on his plate and mixes it up. I was NEVER allowed to do that because it meant someone else couldn’t eat what I left. You had to eat what you wanted and leave the rest untouched, because your Mum had no dinner for herself and was waiting to eat whatever was left on the plate when you were full.

DesignforLife · 26/03/2021 10:35

@Loopyloututu2

Mother taking us up to the high street to use the public phone box and taking a Dettol soaked cloth to wipe it down before using it.

Your mother sounds dead posh! And ahead of her time Grin

What about family "do's" at the local legion/labour club and the mad scramble when the DJ announced the buffet was open? All the aunties would bring a dish to contribute and would usually consist of a variety of triangle sandwiches, cheese n pickle on sticks, pork pies, sausage rolls, crisps n nuts! The birthday/wedding cake would be the dessert and you'd be trying to balance it all on the flimsy paper plates. We had to wait for "the men" to get seconds before anyone else could Hmm
Oh, and little boys sliding across across the dancefloor on their knees!

Good times!

This is still absolutely the case for every family get-together on my dad's side of the family. Always at the legion, or bowling club and always a buffet to which all the female family members have contributed. All the aunties will dash onto the dancefloor at some point in the evening to do The Slosh. In more recent years, a few younger family members have had weddings in hotels or stately homes and that has raised a lot of eyebrows. Needless to say, they all smuggle spirits in their handbags rather than pay the inflated bar prices. Bowling club drinks are as cheap as chips.

We were working class but not poor. For me, the most normal thing, which most of my friends (and DH) can't get their heads around is the presence of the "clubs" in my life. The bowling club was essentially an extension of our home at the weekends. Mum and dad would be playing bowls and/or drinking in the club and playing dominoes all day. Kids would be running around the clubhouse grounds - surviving on a packet of crisps and occasional lemonade, playing games with all the barrels, crates and empty bottles from the bar, which were all stacked around the back. We could build anything out of them. Inside, everyone would be smoking and I remember jumping up to "catch" the smoke "balloons". Even better if you found someone who could blow smoke rings. I also used to play with ashtrays - building "sandcastles" from the ash. When actual bowling tournaments were taking place, we knew we had to be deathly quiet. An unintended shriek from a child could make a bowler lose focus and would likely result in that child being dragged into the toilets for a telling off and/or a smack. I remember one extremely jovial guy in the club. He was always joking around and making good natured jokes at others expense. He was one of my favourites so one day when I saw him lining up his bowl which then went spinning off in the opposite direction, I burst out laughing, thinking he would too. He was furious and I got smacked by his wife for that. I was terrified of them both after that. Women were not allowed to bowl but could be social members of the club so my mum spent much of her time making sandwiches for the men coming off the green, or playing dominoes in the bar. Bowling was a religion and the club was our church. We were there every single weekend. Mum and dad would go alone on a Saturday night, leaving me either with grandparents or arranging a sleepover with a friend. We celebrated every birthday in the club and always went there on christmas eve and new year's eve for big parties. Dad did a shift in the bar every sunday, which meant that for every drink he served, he would be told to get "one for yourself too". Mum would go home in the early afternoon to make the sunday roast (always a roast) and he would roll in, blind drink around 5pm. Dad also went to a more mysterious "working man's club" on Tuesday and Thursday evenings. Women and children were not allowed there.

One of the benefits of being a club member was that we know someone in every trade so if work needed done in the house, some bloke from the bowling club would turn up to do a homer, often being paid in alcohol rather than cash. In general tough, we didn't really do home improvements unless it was an emergency. Everything in the house seemed old-fashioned but buying new furniture, sofas, beds etc was frivolous. Our sofas and beds often sagged so we built them up again by packing newspaper under the cushions and mattresses. We had an immersion heater and the trick was to put it on long enough to get the hot water required for a bath or shower but not too long that it cost unnecessary money. I remember the absolute fear of realising that I'd forgotten to switch it off on occasion.

In the first few years of school (early-mid 80s), the school secretary would regularly come around the classrooms to check who was now "on the phone". i.e. had any families had a phoneline installed since the last check. I got a new school uniform as a christmas present from my grandparents every year - it was something I needed and as money was tight, it wasn't possible to get this and a more exciting present. I had to pretend to be gratefully excited every year.

When not at the club, all kids played out in the streets all day. If our parents were working, it would be ok as there would be at least one parent in the neighbourhood around for emergencies. Nobody really bothered about where we went or what we did though. Clothes were rarely bought new but were handed down not just through families but around the neighbourhood, so I'd see a child from the year below wearing clothes which had been "mine" the year before, but I'd got them from an older neighbour before that.

Hm2020 · 26/03/2021 10:37

The giant council estate next to me had a sort of concierge type man put on the entry I think because there was so much trouble he used to give all us kids sweets and energy drinks this was like 2005 seemed completely normal to take stuff from strangers

Hm2020 · 26/03/2021 10:45

Also bin bag witches capes for Halloween

BangingOn · 26/03/2021 10:48

@confusedandshaken surely the difference is that you are frugal by choice rather than necessity?

Confusedandshaken · 26/03/2021 10:54

[quote BangingOn]@confusedandshaken surely the difference is that you are frugal by choice rather than necessity?[/quote]
Absolutely but that's nothing to do with class. You can have frugal millionaires and spendthrifts on the breadline. My illiterate, immigrant granny was a cleaner in London for many years, so probably about as wc as it's possible to be. She was in no way frugal although they were often penniless!

AnaCanDoOne · 26/03/2021 10:55

Thinking, until I was at least mid-teens, that lorry drivers were very careless to let so much stuff fall off the back of their vehicles Grin.

MrsDrudge · 26/03/2021 11:18

My friends parents used to “store” things for companies who unfortunately “ran out of room in their warehouse”. The goods in storage were varied - chocolate, cartons of cigarettes, boxes of crisps, crates of tinned ham, boxes of car components. I thought this was normal and they were very kind to do such good deeds.
It wasn’t until many years later that it dawned on me this wasn’t normal at all, or a good deed, but stolen goods being sold illegally.

ParkheadParadise · 26/03/2021 11:20

I can remember my older sisters having a show of presents when they got married. My mum and aunties would all make the food my dad went to the off-license for the drink. My sisters would proudly display their 50 towels, 10 toasters and 5 irons. All the neighbours came. Nobody does that anymore.

Whatisthisfuckery · 26/03/2021 11:22

My dad worked mending car washes and he’d get a lot of Texico stars and such. Pretty much everything I had in my pencil case as a kid had Texico or Fina lubricants printed on it. Likewise we spent most of the time in Esso tiger t-shirts, apart from my dad oddly, never saw him wearing one. Everything we had was out the Texico stars etc. We even had a cordless phone out the Texico, man that was posh.

Clothes and shoes were off the market. If you got a coat or somet from C&A it was a treat.

Yes we had a pop man, the pop was called Alpine.

Me and my sister used to deliver the local free papers every week. One week with all the leaflets there were samples of shampoo and conditioner. Nobody got those and mother didn’t have to by shampoo for ages. Same with the tokens for a free can of Pepsi.

GappyValley · 26/03/2021 11:23

@ParkheadParadise

I can remember my older sisters having a show of presents when they got married. My mum and aunties would all make the food my dad went to the off-license for the drink. My sisters would proudly display their 50 towels, 10 toasters and 5 irons. All the neighbours came. Nobody does that anymore.
Can you even imagine the MN thread if someone posted that they had been invited to one of those!
callmeH · 26/03/2021 11:29

@RhubarbCustardy

Holidays in a chalet. Cockles and winkles. Pie n mash shops. Not having a car.
CHalets, how posh! I vividly recall going to a new holiday camp in Rhyl, when we arrived my father and uncle went into the chaotic office and were in there a while. When they came out they told us that the huts were ready but the beds needed making. My mother said, Well that shouldn't take long if they give us the bedding. No my Dad said, they need making as in building from scratch! We had to wait outside while he and uncle went into the huts to help the workmen put the beds together. A memorable holiday, we called the place Colditz!
LizziesTwin · 26/03/2021 11:30

These stories are very much how I grew up, apart from the outside loo/no bathroom.

I didn’t realise it was because we were poor as I didn’t know there was any different way.