DD to school?

[PickledLily]

DD (8) fell yesterday and has badly scraped both knees. Normally this wouldn't hold her back but she can't straighten either leg because of the bruising and is struggling to walk. She was just limping/hobbling yesterday but of course she has seized up over night. There is no way she could manage the walk to school, but I could drive her there late when the traffic has died down and we are less likely get ticketed for stopping on the double yellows outside school.
I am insistent that she goes in but am doubting myself, would you send her in?

Yes I’d send, but drive if I could even if that was a hit late maybe.

If it's just scraped knee, I would send her to school, but it's hurting to walk for long time, I would drive her.

No of course don't send her in. She sounds in a huge amount of pain.

Look after your DD. If she really can't walk, is in such pain, you'll need to get her checked out.

Honestly, I do wonder sometimes at parents who can't properly assess their DC health & need to post here to make decisions.

Yes, as long as she’s not in a lot of pain. Drive her there and tell the school so they can help her if she needs it.

Hope she’s ok.

@MrsHerculePoirot @roguetomato

she can't straighten either leg because of the bruising and is struggling to walk.

Have neither of you read this? It's not just bruised knees! She's in real pain & how can she be in school if she can't straighten her legs?!?

If she's struggling that much I wouldn't send her. I'd also try and get an appointment to get her checked out. That level of pain for scraped knees seems pretty unusual.

Yes take her in. I’ve worked in enough schools to know it’s likely she will be a bit distracted from the pain when with friends. Ask the teacher if she can sit on the chair if needed rather than the carpet though.

@LoveDrunk

Yes, as long as she’s not in a lot of pain. Drive her there and tell the school so they can help her if she needs it.

Hope she’s ok.

Very unfair on school staff & your DD.

They should not have to help your DD.

Keep the poor girl at home. Make sure she's ok.

I would, it'd be the best way to get her going again.

@jendifer

Yes take her in. I’ve worked in enough schools to know it’s likely she will be a bit distracted from the pain when with friends. Ask the teacher if she can sit on the chair if needed rather than the carpet though.

She can't straighten either leg. Is in pain.

It's really not just scraped knees (by OP's description).

It's not fair on her or the school. If she can't straighten her legs, she needs medical attention.

It should ease off as she moves around a little. If she genuinely cannot walk properly due to the pain/discomfort then no I wouldn't send her in. Would probably also be calling GP as never experienced bruising that bad.

To those saying it’s just a scraped knee, have you fallen over and done that recently? Really bloody hurts! I felt guilty for all those times when I told my dc oops a daisy, up you get, just a scraped knee, nothing serious!

Mixed responses! I wasn't expecting that. She doesn't need medical attention. She is just very bruised.
I didn't mention this because I wanted to know what people thought without this info, but she has already missed a few days of school last week due to illness and a covid scare. Which is why I'm so insistent that she goes in, although she will struggle to move around.
Thanks for your comments, I think I'll give it 15mins and see how her knees loosen up now she is up and about.

I would take her in and I would park legally when I do!

Sometimes with things like that they need watchful ignoring to improve.

EarringsandLipstick

The thing is I know the primary school my kids went to would rather have her in and help by providing a chair, letting her not do PE etc than her not be in school.

I did say I’d only send her if not in too much pain. OP said she’d seized up overnight, that doesn’t always mean pain. Obviously if she’s in lots of pain then don’t send her, give some painkiller etc.

Watchful ignoring

Unfortunately there's no parking at/near the school so I don't have an option to park close by legally, but it's why I would wait until after the school gates close so there are no kids around.

PickledLily

Don’t let the fact she has missed time last week change your decision, judge if only on how she is now. These things typically all happen together. Does she want to go in?

She doesn't want to go in but she is like that most days. I normally just keep insisting very calmly and eventually she accepts that she has to go to school.

@PickledLily

She doesn't want to go in but she is like that most days. I normally just keep insisting very calmly and eventually she accepts that she has to go to school.

Slightly off topic but why doesn't she want to go in? Is it possible the fall and bruised knees are from other children pushing her or deliberately playing rough?

What's she normally like with pain?

I ask because I have one dc for whom presenting like that would make me suspect there was something more serious and I'd want her checked out. She never complains about anything.
Another for whom can make an invisible paper cut sound like a serious accident that needs a few days off school to recover. Heck, school wanted her to go home with a splinter in year 9. That's the level of agony she suffers.
And one who is reasonably accurate, but hovers on the underplaying side unless it gets them out of school. Then they can appear in dreadful agony until they arrive at school, when it suddenly clears.

The first I'd keep them off.
The second and third I wouldn't.
However

Sorry, pressed post to soon.
However I would speak to the teacher and mention that they are in a bit of pain and could they keep an eye on them. Perhaps it would be best if they're allowed to stay in a playtime to stop them being knocked again.

I would send her as long as she is not in too much pain. In primary she won't need to move around too much and movement may actually be good for her knees and help to stop them seizing up.

(I may be a bit on the tough side though as have sent DS1 to school today after he dislocated his knee at school yesterday and we were in A&E till 9:30pm.)

I love the phrase "watchful ignoring". I do exactly this except DH thinks I just ignore and doesn't really understand the "watchful" part of it.

Jeezo keep her off. She can't walk without being in pain!