Teenagers renegotiating allowance.

[StrumpersPlunkett]

I am aware there will be variation but we have been on £1 a year each month.
So aged £12 it was £12 per month.
Apparently this is not the going rate.
We can afford more but just don’t want to spend more than we need to

@Veuvestar

No, he doesn’t go anywhere V occasionally his friends have been here or he’s been cinema/bowling for a birthday. He’s been to friends a couple of times

Very unusual for a thirteen year old though lockdown has changed everything. I remember mine at that age and he was always out and about with friends as well as entertaining them at home. I'm sure your son will change very soon in that respect.

Kids need a bit of money in their 'pocket' which is why it is called 'pocket money'. It gives them some independence.

I'm 61 next month and even I had pocket money as a child. My parents gave me some every Saturday morning. It was mine to do with as I chose. I saved a little for gifts and holiday spends, often bought something for my mum. Sometimes I'd blow it all in one go but when I was at school, that didn't matter because, come Saturday, I'd get my next lot.

@BatFacedGrrll

I give my youngest aged 14 about £60 a month. Seems about right to me and fits fine in my budget

Sounds good to me.

Mine is now 31 and I can't remember what we gave him. I know it was a reasonable amount with which he was more than content. He didn't have to do anything for it, it was 'his pocket money'. At 14 going on 15 he got a Saturday job (probably illegal but it was a marvellous job in a musical instrument shop which suited him down to the ground; he is a professional musician), which topped up his allowance; after a while he worked there in school holidays too. They were happy times - but I digress.

It's interesting that some of you think it's tight but in my case my children just don't spend money! We're not big spenders so maybe this is why 🤷🏼‍♀️

If you have no money you can't even be a small spender.

What’s it suppose to cover?

Mine both get £10/ month at 10 and 11. Long may that last!

Obviously I pay for everything - clothes, SIM only contract for secondary school DD, and socialising (when it happens).

But money is tight at the moment, so it won't increase until circumstances improve.

Age per month is low. 14 year old was getting £20 a month from 11, put up to £30 this year. Doesn't spend it all, but hoping he will be able to start doing some activities with friends again this summer.

On top of the £30 I cover phone (£8), clothes (no interest, so basics and second hand), and toiletries (no interest, so basics). I've offered for train tickets and lunch but he says he has plenty.

@partyatthepalace

What’s it suppose to cover?

I presume you mean pocket money.

Usually it covers going out with friends, buying fast food and drink while out, maybe going to the cinema or swimming; in my day I bought records, occasionally a magazine, paperbacks, little bits of make up once I was thirteen or so. Bus fares. General bits and pieces like junk jewellery, maybe an embellished canvas bag, a poster to go on bedroom wall. Christmas and birthday presents for others.

@DinosApple

Mine both get £10/ month at 10 and 11. Long may that last!

Obviously I pay for everything - clothes, SIM only contract for secondary school DD, and socialising (when it happens).

But money is tight at the moment, so it won't increase until circumstances improve.

You pay for a lot of things that other people expect their DC to pay for out of their allowance. So probably you're not spending any less over all!

Renegotiation now complete.
£ for each year each week.
Out of that will now take phone costs and smarter toiletries that I previously topped up.
Agreed that £20 per month should go into savings for socialising.

That sounds reasonable, Strumpers. If I've got it right that means if he is 14 he will receive £14 a week which is £728 pa, £60.6666666667 per calendar month (I'd round that up to £61). He should be able to manage on that.

Totally correct. He is over the moon having previously been £14 per month.

Well done.

We seem to give more than on here but our son pays for all clothes, phone, toiletries, socialising and getting to college. We pay for his driving lessons.

Wow, we are obviously very out of sync! My 12 and 13 year olds get £6 a month each. Yes that is a month. We pay for their clothes and phone and basic toiletries.

I got £20 a month until 15 and then £50 a month from then.

This was from 2006 to 2011 ish