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Broken up with a friend and I feel pretty wretched.

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TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 24/03/2021 15:10

I've posted about her before, we'd 'bubbled' as she was single and was here ALL of the time.

Taking over, dictating the music, dictating that the television should be on, but lacking in boundaries.

Kicked off about two weeks ago when I was unwell and gave her the taxi money to go home because I just needed some space.

She's also started flirting with my husband - talking about her shaved private parts, constantly touching him, snuggling up to him. He asked her to stop which resulted in an almighty sulk.

Another message followed about how rude he was and how she's not sure she can be friends with me because she associated me with him. Whatever.

My mental health is bad right now. I think this is why.now

The lack of space, her being ever so slightly controlling of my home and my free time, we work together and she's been trying to dictate what shifts I do and my hackles have been raised over her being weird with my husband.

Akso, him and I apparently can't do anything together. If we mention watching a film, going for a walk, picking up a takeaway she'll be huffy that we did it without her.

She's impossible to please.

So, the friendship has ended. I can't do it any more.

But I still work wit her, and I still care. I feel bad.

On new medication (day 3) for anxiety and I feel pretty horrendous anyway. And now I have this.

Am I a terrible person? I need some perspective.

OP posts:
SparklingLime · 24/03/2021 15:20

Jesus! You are not in any way terrible. You’ve just tolerated too much. She sounds appalling. Prioritise a calm home and life (without her) and make this a new start. Flowers

SparklingLime · 24/03/2021 15:21

You’ll need to introduce firm boundaries at work, eg she does not get to influence your shifts.

Themadcatparade · 24/03/2021 15:21

Oh my days what have I just read. She sounds unhinged Op.

Stay friends with this girl and you will be running rings around her for the rest of your life.

I’m sure you will feel better come time has passed but that is not friendship what you have described and it will only do more harm than good.

HolyShitBatman · 24/03/2021 15:24

Oooft, you’re a more restrained person than me! I would’ve physically booted her arse right out the front door.

Don’t mourn the loss of her OP, she was never your friend.

AluckyEllie · 24/03/2021 15:24

Enjoy your freedom! You are no way in the wrong. You don’t need people like that in your life, you’ve identified it and got rid. Be proud!
She’s a creep, flirting with your husband to stoke her ego and trying to control you by dictating your shifts.
Don’t let her guilt you into apologising or doing things with her again. She’s an adult and will know full well she’s being manipulative. Hope you feel better soon x

Aquamarine1029 · 24/03/2021 15:25

Fucking hell, you're well rid of this nutter. She is not your friend, and never was.

Easterbunnygettingready · 24/03/2021 15:25

I bet your anxiety eases now op... She wasn't your friend..

Lunariagal · 24/03/2021 15:28

I think you're well rid.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 24/03/2021 15:30

I felt for a while that she wasn’t really my friend.

She was living with family and it was pretty crowded and I think she came here to have some space (to the detriment of mine).

The husband thing is new. Unless I just never noticed it before. Constantly touching him. And once flashed him —accidently on purpose—.

It’s been hard. I’m an introvert so like my space and have been told before now that I’m ‘boring’ because I need space or quiet.

I’m so on edge. Anxiety is horrendous.

I just want to stay in my bed forever.

OP posts:
emilyfrost · 24/03/2021 15:31

You’ve done the right thing; she was never a friend to you.

emilyfrost · 24/03/2021 15:32

She was living with family and it was pretty crowded and I think she came here to have some space (to the detriment of mine).

I thought you said she was single? You couldn’t have bubbled together if she lived with other people.

HildegardeCrowe · 24/03/2021 15:32

What did you see in her in the first place? She sounds unbearable and wonder why you put up with her so long. Your poor husband...

Aquamarine1029 · 24/03/2021 15:33

After you have time to settle down, you really need to reflect upon this and work on your boundaries. Your relationship with her should have ended long ago. Just be glad it's over.

Cam2020 · 24/03/2021 15:34

Bloody hell, you're not a bad person at all, OP, it sounds like you and your husband have been very nice to put up with this as long you did!

Hopefully once your medication settles you'll be feeling better and be able to see what a piss taker she's been!

FoonySpucker · 24/03/2021 15:34

I remember your other thread.
You are well rid of her - she isn't a friend.

I hope that you start to feel better soon. You've made a great start getting rid of her Flowers

VettiyaIruken · 24/03/2021 15:40

No you are not! She is awful.

You could explain to work in case she ups the batcrap crazy!

Goleor · 24/03/2021 15:50

She sounds like a nutter and would drive my own anxiety sky high. You are well rid of her. Friends dont act like she did

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