When did you begin to really feel like you was ageing?

[Themadcatparade]

I have just been sifting through my hair for the twiney greys that have sprouted suddenly over the course of the last week. I found two in the same spot this afternoon.

I’m fairly young but this year has taken its toll on me. It’s like my body is catching up now but it has happened, somehow, all of a sudden.

Over the past year I now have noticeable bags under my eyes. I can’t seem to lose weight no matter what I do now. My knees hurt daily. My boobs are noticeably lower down the grid. The whites of my eyes aren’t white anymore, they look more red with a bluesh hue. They remind me of my dads.

I’m 31 years young. I know this is young. I know I have my life to live. But I just feel like ever since I turned 30 I’m just watching my body slowly give up before me and it’s happening all at once.

When did you start to truly notice the changes of age? I feel like I’m going out of my mind here but its very apparent.

Not really until my 50s if you don't count grey hairs. Now I notice joint aches and weight gain and bad sleep. I think my nans advice about moisturiser when I was 14 may have paid off as well as my dislike for both smoking and sunbathing.

Actually that may sound smug sorry. Overhaul your nutrition and fresh air as that pays dividends on the skin and eyes.

I’m 31 too and this all sounds familiar! I’ve also noticed wrinkles and crows feet around my eyes which I didn’t have before.

Oh OP I'm 35 now and I remember in my very early 30s where my mortality just hit me and I really struggled with the thought of dying for a while. It brought into sharp focus all the ways in which I was getting older and I had serious anxiety about ageing. It was all I could think about. I think it's probably a phase that a lot of people go through.

Last four years. AM 52, tits are rapidly moving downwards and the face is chasing them!

Recently age 43

49, as in now. I really see the lines, struggle to lose weight, exercise is hard, a few grey hair. My teeth need more work. My hands have a few age spots.

But generally I have good genes, and I am very grateful for the privilege of being alive and healthy. Aging doesn't phase me, I try to embrace it.

Close to 50 - now. The greys have been around for 20 years and don't really bother me. Now my hair has thinned and looks more like 'old person' hair. (But that may be a bad bout of covid)

My eyes, ears, knees, muscles -all have gone down a notch in recent years. I remind myself - they are the best they will ever be -so enjoy what I have.

Mid 50's for me... I managed to embrace the changes until menopause made weight loss impossible and weight gain easy. One plus is that my pudgy face looks less wrinkled now, so all is not lost.

Late 30s when I started gaining weight. Until then, I could eat all I want and drink all I want and didn't affect my weight.

@RaininSummer not smug at all, sounds like you are very blessed on the genetic front!

@whoami24601 please tell me it gets better that grim fear?

To be honest I thought I’d be more bothered about the grey. The grey I can cope with I do find grey hairs macabre beautiful. It’s everything else. If it stuck to a very slow change so I didn’t notice it wouldn’t be half as bad but it’s all come at me all at once

Now. Early 50s.

I forgot to add the sagging chin to the list too (I got it zapped last year to no avail) and the top of the head hair thinning. All in the same year!

Maybe the stress of covid has accelerated this

Stop obsessing over ageing. It’s a good thing it means you’re still alive. So go and live life.

Are you generally well OP? Might be worth getting a general check up, make sure your vitamin levels and thyroid are normal. It could just be stress and natural ageing, it has been a hard year. But worth checking out anything that could be going on medically too.

Around now at 50. Grey hairs are multiplying as are forehead lines.
I’m losing weight and I’m worried that I might be left saggy if my skin has lost elasticity since I was last slim. We’ll see!

Definite acceleration at 35 and then 45.

As Molotov says it might be worth getting a check up, you may have a low iron count if the whites of your eyes are a bit blue. Have you been taking vitamin D over the winter months? This and B vitamins (eg Berocca) may we'll help with your sleep xxxx

Menopause - at 50. Didn't have a difficult menopause - hot flushes mostly at night. No other symptoms.

But my skin is suddenly much more lined and less supple
My hair is brittle and thining
And the aches and pains and niggles crop up

Looked and felt relatively good in my forties

Have to say though - I am fairly unbothered re the appearance thing.

@Themadcatparade it definitely gets better. I hardly think about it now. At the time I used to look at my parents and think 'how do they live their lives knowing how close they are..?' but it passed for me. I definitely feel older but not in a bad way iyswim

I think in my late 50s I realised that my jaw line was never going to reappear and my eyes are a bit baggy but it's a life well lived and all that

It wouldn’t surprise me if I was a bit vitamin deficient, I have been slipping my b12 and my D recently and drinking far more than I should (depression since January). I will have a look to see if I can get my bloods checked, the last time I did they were fine. My diet is great 80% of the time.

My family aren’t blessed with the youthful genes tbh, I have always had that in the back of my mind. I would like to look after myself as much as I can it’s been very difficult the last few months though. I have however been probably the most active in my life the last year or so. I’m defo more conscious of the importance of a good diet and staying active than I was in my early 20s.

It’s interesting to read people’s own experiences and thoughts over the matter

[quote whoami24601]@Themadcatparade it definitely gets better. I hardly think about it now. At the time I used to look at my parents and think 'how do they live their lives knowing how close they are..?' but it passed for me. I definitely feel older but not in a bad way iyswim[/quote]
I think old age is designed to get a bit burdensome (I'm talking late 70's upwards), ill health starts to rear its head, your friends and peers die off, sadly loneliness is often a thing...so even if you have a relatively pleasant old age, you are probably quite sanguine about the fact that you might slip away in your sleep.

That wasn't meant to be depressing!

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