Instagram/fb etc, pictures of folk posing wearing very little as updates.

[Kroptopbelly]

I watched 24 hours in police custody with the rape case.
They kept mentioning the young girl with the pictures/selfies on her social media accounts wearing next to nothing or at least very revealing clothing and therefore not being credible as a witness.
I know that this should not have anything to do with anything but as vulnerable young people is it ever ok to have this on social media, also, are these accounts not invite only so not necessarily public?
So you can choose who sees your pictures and account info?
(I’m old, I’m not up with the inner workings, so apologies)
It’s very worrying in this world of selfies and publishing so many pictures of ourselves within the wider context of crime and people preying on vulnerable people.
I’ve a niece you see who is extremely vulnerable and puts these sorts of pictures up, I want to have a conversation with her about it, but as it’s so accepted nowadays, I’m not sure if it would be crossing a line or causing upset or offence.

Difficult.

Wasn’t the situation that she sent him videos of her twerking, wearing next to nothing, sexting etc? I may have misheard... I think it was due to that. They had to take into account that all this happened before they met and the subsequent rape happened.

but as vulnerable young people is it ever ok to have this on social media, also, are these accounts not invite only so not necessarily public?

Accounts can be public or private; it’s up to the owner.

I’ve a niece you see who is extremely vulnerable and puts these sorts of pictures up, I want to have a conversation with her about it,

That sort or conversation is for the parents to have, not an aunt. It’s not your place.

And if she has no parents...

It’s a pretty standard conversation to have. Remind her to set her privacy settings on FB & IG, and that anything she shares, even privately, can be recovered and shared. There’s even still ways to record Snapchat, and a lot of teens trust that, as it “disappears” after a minute or so.

I didn’t have parents either, and I’d have appreciated a heads up on some things. Thankfully none of these!

@Kroptopbelly

And if she has no parents...

How old is she? Who are her guardians?

I could send a man 100 videos of me twerking and photos of my arse and tits, still doesn’t give him the right to rape me.

Huh, a smidgen of victim blaming going on here? Even if someone is a porn star on only fans or whatever. If they do not consent it is rape.

That's the mindset that needs to change by the way. Rape is never ever the victims fault. Rape is wrong, the rapist is wrong and at fault.

I do see where you are coming from. It is NEVER the victims fault. But I do think young people need a bit more guidance to think twice before sharing intimate images of themselves. If they fall into the wrong hands or the person they sent them to turns rogue, it can cause a huge amount of stress and shame. Can’t remember which (I don’t watch if) but I read an interview in one of the weekend newspapers about one of the love island contestants being caught out with this twice (at school and again in her twenties)

Systemic victim blaming and misogyny. The male thought 'she's asking for it' being the default and agreed position.

She's never asking for it unless she actually asks for it.

I hope pps do not think i’m blaming the victim. Obviously sending videos does not mean consent. i’m explaining what the police were saying on the show. They were worried that this evidence being shown would paint the victim in a bad light and work in defences favour.

I hope pps do not think i’m blaming the victim. Obviously sending videos does not mean consent. i’m explaining what the police were saying on the show. They were worried that this evidence being shown would paint the victim in a bad light and work in defences favou

I get that but it's the polices /justice system attitude that needs to change. What she wore/posted etc doesn't mean that she asked for it, doesn't mean she is sexually liberal so an easy target. A recent case springs to mind where the kind of underwear the victim was wearing was questioned? So if she wears "sexy" undies she deserves it? The whole thing is fucking toxic.