I heard him whispering on a work call

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To a female work colleague.

I know her. I know him. They are good friends and in the work day talk alot as their job means they have to. I have in the last year never had an issue. Not once. Many work calls between them, we have chatted to each other she always asks if I am well etc..

However today he was chatting on teams video call to her as normal when I walked in the room. I work downstairs so I passed through "his work space" and he stopped talking..kind of. Then I went downstairs but for some reason I stopped out of sight to him but I wasn't out of ear shot and he whispered to her. I couldn't make out what he said but he definitely whispered. He wears a headset so I couldn't hear her response.

I dont know why but I feel weird about it.
They have talked multiple times a day for the last year and I have never once felt odd about it until today.

I confronted him?? Discussed it. He denied whispering but I know he did. He denied any wrong doing said I had it wrong/was being stupid.

I know what I heard. Why whisper when wearing a headset unless you don't want others to hear you??
I have no proof of anything I know that but I am now on my guard.
Am I crazy?

Sounds odd alright...but if he is wfh & has been for almost a year (?) then unlikely something is going on..if that is where your mind is taking you. Maybe keep your eyes & ears open though if your gut is telling you something.

I’d have said, ‘What was all the whispering about?’ the minute he came off the phone.

I can never understand why people don’t just ask. And don’t just listen to the answer - watch his body language. That will tell you as much, if not more.

It was probably nothing, but you need to ask him!

But the OP did ask him....?

Ask him! Of course. Daft op not asking him.
If only her op mentioned that
"I confronted him?? Discussed it. He denied whispering but I know he did. He denied any wrong doing said I had it wrong/was being stupid."

doesn't have to be something wrong? what if he was talking about a surprise bday gift/party or anything really.

I would be really upset by this. Whether they are having an affair or not, whispering implies that he has said something to her that you, as his wife is not privileged to hear. They now share a secret. Or they could of been bitching about you? Whispering of course is completely valid if he is doing top secret government work ?

Oh god, sorry. You did ask him - my mistake.

I guess I’d keep on at him, and tell him how I was feeling, in that case. And watch him like a hawk.

Sorry again.

Why can't people whisper to some one, without being questioned about it. This is being paranoid about something silly,

Op, you know your dp. Listen to your instincts. If your radar is pinging then there might be a reason.

It could be that boredom of lockdown has led to their chat being inappropriate, I don't see how it can be more than that if he hasn't been to work,

Don't assume the worst, Just maybe be a bit more alert for a few weeks.

@oopsydaisyyy

doesn't have to be something wrong? what if he was talking about a surprise bday gift/party or anything really.

He was whispering to his work colleague about the OP’s surprise gift or party?!

Funny.

Probably whispering that the worst thing about WFH is that you put the milk in with the tea bag, or no one in the office farts smell as bad as yours. Have you been cropdusting him?
I wouldn't worry about it.

What I wouldn't like is that he said you were being stupid. That's the bit that would worry me that he was gas lighting. I don't know where you go with this OP but go with your gut would be my advice. x

Be on your guard OP for someone who protests too much. My ex had what appeared to be a "friendly relationship" with a colleague only it wasn't a friendly relationship. Your DH whispered because there was something he was saying to her he didn't want you to hear. Simple.

Always trust your gut - just stay alert at the moment...

Trust yourself. He did it, whether he denies or not. He stopped talking-that's odd. He whispered-that's odd too. Who whispers at work?

He didn't want you hearing.

DH sometimes mutes his colleagues if I walk in as he is discussing confidential stuff. I do the same on some of my work calls, as it's a private conversation, that would normally be had in an environment without evesdroppers.
However, it's the denial that's a bit strange. DH and I are quite upfront with each other that there are work matters that we don't want anyone to overhear.

Thank you for the replies.

I have said nothing more on the subject apart from telling him that if anything has gone on there will be no us. No second chance.

He wasn't angry and didn't overly protest but I know what I heard. There is zero reason for him to whisper. My birthday is not for several months, no anniversaries or other celebratory type events.

I am not a paranoid or jealous person and as I told him yesterday in the last year I have never had a reason to suspect anything. It was his actions/behaviour that prompted this.

I don't think he knew you went by a second time and heard the whispering, he though you just heard the "pause" as you walked through and that's why he's denied it. I suppose if you explained you had gone by a second time he then felt foolish and maintained the denial.

I'd be very vigilant, but it does look like you have laid out your stall, so that should give him something to consider if he was building up to anything.

Was he working on something confidential? I work in banking and currently working on a project which is market sensitive. It's imperative neither DH, nor DC, overhear my conversations or I could go to prison! I appreciate that's quite extreme, but it would be the reason if DH heard me whispering atm.