Handhold needed - DM may have Breast Cancer

[MNWorldisCrazy]

Hi I'm sorry to post in Chat but I couldn't find a Cancer-specific topic. If I missed it then I'm happy for this thread to be moved.

My 77yr old DM has just told me today that she has a hospital appointment tomorrow at Macmillan as she has suddenly got an inverted nipple on one breast and some leakage. She also says (after I asked her after googling) that there is a change in density.
No lump though and no dimples.

It's not looking good is it?

Anyone else had these symptoms and had it turn out ok?

I'm not emotionally close to my Mum really so don't really know 'how' to be supportive.
We lost my Dad 10 years ago and my Mum is all my child & I have left. I'm a disabled single parent with no other family (besides my brother who I don't get along with or speak to) and no friends. I know I sound really selfish there but I'm all over the place with emotions.

What am I going to do? What do I say?

Going on (long) school run now but should be back by 4:15pm

Thank you

Handholding. I’m so sorry

I’m not sure where you are located but are you able to go to the appointment with your mum?

As far as being supportive goes, I’d be letting her know you are there for her. More phone contact than usual, organise a meal for her after the appointment so she doesn’t have to cook, that kind of thing.

Please look after yourself as well. You can support her better if you have your own support. Wishing you both well

@Rainbowqueeen

Handholding. I’m so sorry

I’m not sure where you are located but are you able to go to the appointment with your mum?

As far as being supportive goes, I’d be letting her know you are there for her. More phone contact than usual, organise a meal for her after the appointment so she doesn’t have to cook, that kind of thing.

Please look after yourself as well. You can support her better if you have your own support. Wishing you both well

We live in Harrogate.

I offered to go with her and she said I can't which I'm guessing is her presuming.
I don't think she'd want me there to be honest. She is very much like me, in wanting to do things herself.

She doesn't think they'll give her any answers tomorrow. GP says she thinks they'll do a Mammogram.

@Rainbowqueeen

Handholding. I’m so sorry

I’m not sure where you are located but are you able to go to the appointment with your mum?

As far as being supportive goes, I’d be letting her know you are there for her. More phone contact than usual, organise a meal for her after the appointment so she doesn’t have to cook, that kind of thing.

Please look after yourself as well. You can support her better if you have your own support. Wishing you both well

Thank you by the way x

Anyone ever had one or all of those symptoms and it been nothing too serious?

Anyone?

It probably is the case that she cannot take anyone. At my recent visit to the breast clinic, I couldn't because of covid.
It's likely she will have a mammogram and an ultrasound scan.
Just keep communication open and let her know you're there

@FindingMeno

It probably is the case that she cannot take anyone. At my recent visit to the breast clinic, I couldn't because of covid. It's likely she will have a mammogram and an ultrasound scan. Just keep communication open and let her know you're there

Thank you. Doesn't look good, does it?

@FindingMeno

It probably is the case that she cannot take anyone. At my recent visit to the breast clinic, I couldn't because of covid. It's likely she will have a mammogram and an ultrasound scan. Just keep communication open and let her know you're there

I hope your visit went well?

Oops. Didn't mean for the confused face there! I really am all over the place today

I think its very natural to worry and reach all sorts of conclusions regardless of the symptoms.
I did get the all clear but one thing I can assure you of is that they will be very thorough, kind, and professional.

@FindingMeno

I think its very natural to worry and reach all sorts of conclusions regardless of the symptoms. I did get the all clear but one thing I can assure you of is that they will be very thorough, kind, and professional.

Amazing you got the all clear Do you mind me asking please if you had a lump or any of the symptoms my Mum has?

Mine was a lump but no other symptoms.
Best of luck for your DM for tomorrow.

It will be at the breast clinic, macmillan don't see patients. The breast clinic is a one stop shop where they can do lots of tests on the day. They are very experienced at diagnosing breast cancer and on the day they may be able to rule it out or they may say they think it's likely. They won't give a definite diagnosis without biopsy results.
You aren't allowed anyone with you at hospital appointments at the moment, if you took her you'd have to wait in the car.
Don't panic, doctors are always cautious with breasts but most turn out yo be nothing serious. Even if it is breast cancer it is often very treatable.
I have had breast cancer and when I was in hospital there was a lady much older than your mum doing very well.

@Boph

It will be at the breast clinic, macmillan don't see patients. The breast clinic is a one stop shop where they can do lots of tests on the day. They are very experienced at diagnosing breast cancer and on the day they may be able to rule it out or they may say they think it's likely. They won't give a definite diagnosis without biopsy results. You aren't allowed anyone with you at hospital appointments at the moment, if you took her you'd have to wait in the car. Don't panic, doctors are always cautious with breasts but most turn out yo be nothing serious. Even if it is breast cancer it is often very treatable. I have had breast cancer and when I was in hospital there was a lady much older than your mum doing very well.

Thank you so much for commenting you have put my mind at rest so so much.

Re: Macmillan, it's the name of the cancer department at our local hospital, where the breast clinic is.

Well done for beating it! That's awesome