So sorry, tinseloatcake - real life has been a bit busy and, in MN-world, I've been drawn into some rather pointless but oddly irritating debates!
On the Caravan Club website (I think it was), they advised to have a minimum of 40BHP per 1,000kg of 'train' - so likely to be approaching 3,000kg combined for a largish MPV/SUV/van plus a medium-large single-axle caravan, so as not to hold up traffic unnecessarily and for starts and stops at roundabouts, traffic lights, hills, through towns and such to not take forever to get going.
I suppose it's the dichotomy between a heavier vehicle being better for towing, but then also requiring extra oomph to shift its own weight!
We're definitely not 'new car' people. We want something nice to travel in and reliable that will last us for a good few years. Probably looking at up to about £7-8K, but might be able to push a little extra for something perfect. Ideally 10 years old or newer.
We want a vehicle where the middle row (if a 7-seater) is comfy and has plenty of legroom - the Sharan/Alhambra has middle seats that can go forward and back on rails and also recline, as well as built-in tables; a potential 7-seater would be handy, but we don't really need a third row, if that doesn't work out. Definitely something where the seats fold down easily, as it seems such a faff to have to remove them and store them somewhere. Again, the Sharan can be used with 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 or 7 seats in place and the rest flat to the floor. Loads of space when carrying three people is essential.
We're fans of the more modest VW-group cars - so VW/Seat/Skoda. Our last one was a (rather old) Audi A6 estate, that was ridiculously low to the ground (bought years before we thought of getting a caravan) and just had extra unnecessary, silly stuff that's more to go wrong. We don't care about prestige: just reliability, quality and practicality.
Nothing with silly high tax rates (ideally no more than £250 or so max) or unnecessarily expensive parts, and a decent mpg. Has to be automatic.
I've probably forgotten something, but any suggestions are very welcome! I kind of think that a Sharan/Alhambra pretty much ticks every box that we have, but a small part of me keeps seeing vans/van-based MPVs and envying the even-more space available!