My 7 year old daughter was hitting me because I asked her to go to bed and when trying to get her off my hand caught her eye

[Kelly2021]

I’ve been having problems with my 7 year old daughter she has melt downs over everything she broke her tablet she hits me it’s so hard to deal with her when she’s like that 😫 the other night she was having a meltdown Friday evening and ran at me hitting me trying to get her off my hand hit her eye and she was crying I feel awful I would never intentionally hurt her. Try here’s no significant mark there maybe the slightest it’s hard to tell... can you lose your kids over something like this it’s my worst fear I love them so much

Calm down it was an accident. You obviously didn’t mean it as you’re so upset! Is your dd being assessed for anything that could be causing aggression?

What causes her meltdowns, is there a trigger? Does she have SEN/ASD?

I only ask because I have an autistic child who has meltdowns and gets aggressive and it’s very hard.

No you won’t but it sounds like you need some support with her behaviour.

You need to get to the root of why she's lashing out at you. Does she do it to everyone or just you?

It was an accident dont worry they happen.
As others have said the bigger issue is a 7 year old behaving like this. Is it being addressed?

It was an accident try not to stress, but take it as the point where something needs to be done about her behaviour. Do you think she is just playing up or do you think there could be more to it? ADHD? ASD? How is her behaviour at school? Do they have any concerns? Could you video a meltdown and take it to show your GP to try to get some help/advice? I would also talk to school as they might be able to help x

@Menofsteel

Calm down it was an accident. You obviously didn’t mean it as you’re so upset! Is your dd being assessed for anything that could be causing aggression?

I called gp back in august and got number for self referral for family partnership to do course for dealing with behaviour issues and said would phone every couple of weeks but none of it happened I put it down to covid felt let down

@GreatTeaMonkey

What causes her meltdowns, is there a trigger? Does she have SEN/ASD?

I only ask because I have an autistic child who has meltdowns and gets aggressive and it’s very hard.

I have tried with family partnership got let down never got the help I was told I would. What other symptoms does your child have? It's so hard I've been in tears because of her behaviour I'm quite a chilled mum and feel I give her a good life I just don't understand why she is like this 😫

@Tal45

It was an accident try not to stress, but take it as the point where something needs to be done about her behaviour. Do you think she is just playing up or do you think there could be more to it? ADHD? ASD? How is her behaviour at school? Do they have any concerns? Could you video a meltdown and take it to show your GP to try to get some help/advice? I would also talk to school as they might be able to help x

I feel it is something more it's like she can't handle her emotions and it's all over such silly things I have tried to get help with family partnership but got let down never did what the lot said they would do... she does it mainly with me not so much at school...

@Thatwentbadly

No you won’t but it sounds like you need some support with her behaviour.

Yeah definitely do 😫

So I would speak to school and the GP. If she is autistic and I’m only saying if, girls are much harder to diagnose, children on the spectrum also ‘mask’ at school or other settings. It’s worth a google. So my DS masks all day, which is exhausting for him, he basically spends his day trying to adapt to a neurotypical world and then lets it all out when he gets home.

Think of the explosions as like a bottle of fizzy pop, every time they get anxious about something it gets shook up a bit (even simple tasks), then when they get home where it’s safe it gets released and they explode. I don’t know what my DS’s triggers are, well not all of them anyway. He’s very routine led and black and white about stuff, I’ve definitely learnt to pick my battles.

Have you ever asked her why she thinks she gets angry or how she feels when it happens? The VCB Facebook group is a good place to look for help, but unless you push and push with school or the GP or school nurse team you won’t get anywhere. Don’t wait for people to contact you.

@GreatTeaMonkey

So I would speak to school and the GP. If she is autistic and I’m only saying if, girls are much harder to diagnose, children on the spectrum also ‘mask’ at school or other settings. It’s worth a google. So my DS masks all day, which is exhausting for him, he basically spends his day trying to adapt to a neurotypical world and then lets it all out when he gets home.

Think of the explosions as like a bottle of fizzy pop, every time they get anxious about something it gets shook up a bit (even simple tasks), then when they get home where it’s safe it gets released and they explode. I don’t know what my DS’s triggers are, well not all of them anyway. He’s very routine led and black and white about stuff, I’ve definitely learnt to pick my battles.

Have you ever asked her why she thinks she gets angry or how she feels when it happens? The VCB Facebook group is a good place to look for help, but unless you push and push with school or the GP or school nurse team you won’t get anywhere. Don’t wait for people to contact you.

There is definitely something everything seems to be a problem for goes off over the silliest thing it's so draining she also has the sweetest side to her she goes from 1 to 10 in the opposite direction. I will have a read up on what you said about masking at school and I have spoken to a gp need to push more for help I really don't think she can control her outburst I don't want this for her I just want her to be calm and happy