Toddlers don't know where their nose is

[SleepingStandingUp]

Or which is the block and the brick etc. They don't bring me a specific toy.

Say Alexa and they look in the right direction so they do understand something!! Same of I hold the remote control or a banana

They're also not walking or talking in English which isn't making me feel great but at least that's more of an imate skill.

But the not knowing which is the block or where their toes are, that's something I'm clearly failing to teach them!

Do you reckon it's just me rather than anything wrong with them? Any ideas for how to get them to catch up?

15 months is well within the normal range for not walking or talking. I had similar worries and the health visitor told me that they mostly look for understanding at that age. She said to come back at 18 months if I still had concerns.

Keep an eye on them, but I wouldn't worry until 18 months. Chances are they'll start doing stuff soon

My dd didn't talk until 4! Honestly don't worry. Sing rhymes with body parts, talk to them about what you are doing (like a running commentary) even though you don't expect a reply. Read books lots too and quality kids programmes shouldn't be dismissed. Most important thing is modelling good language as then when they are developmentally ready they will have learnt the meanings.

Ps normal range (birth at term singleton) is 9 months to 18 months for first steps, 9 months to 2 years for first words. Try to ignore competitive parenting threads! Twins, preemies and esl are often later than these windows. If at 18 months they are neither walking nor talking then call your hv for reassurance

Is ENglish not your first language.

Twins usually have some sort of language delay, coupled with being bilingual = more language delay.

My twins, 31 weekers, weren't talking until 2.5.

My DD changed enormously between 15 and 17 months. She walked at 16 and by 17 understood everything. At 15 months she could do very little.
She basically had leap 10 and changed massively, almost overnight.
I’d say yours are fine

@minniemoocher

My dd didn't talk until 4! Honestly don't worry. Sing rhymes with body parts, talk to them about what you are doing (like a running commentary) even though you don't expect a reply. Read books lots too and quality kids programmes shouldn't be dismissed. Most important thing is modelling good language as then when they are developmentally ready they will have learnt the meanings.

My DS the same, I think that why I'm paranoid.and he had uninterrupted 121 time. Now he never bloody shuts up 🙄😁

@idontlikealdi

Is ENglish not your first language.

Twins usually have some sort of language delay, coupled with being bilingual = more language delay.

My twins, 31 weekers, weren't talking until 2.5.

English is my first language, just poor posting skills as I didn't make myself clear, sorry

I think they sound well within the normal range. I’m sure this won’t win any parenting awards but my twins have been watching the baby club songs on CBeebies and they’ve picked up a few words and actions. Mine are 13 months, one has about 10 words and the other just says mum. One can walk and the other can’t. There’s a huge range of normal at the moment.

@MoreMorelos

Ummmm what do you actually expect them to do?

Walk, point to their nose, bring me a ball or a brick on demand and T1 to go down for the nap he should have had 3 hours ago!! Say Mama instead of Dadaaaaa Dddaaaaaadddd Da Dad!!

@SoupDragon

Play a video of "head shoulders knees and toes" on repeat for them to watch whilst you homeschool DS1.

Seriously though, they're fine :)

This might be the new plan!! If only there was a Sonic version. Head, spines, knees and nose maybe 😜

He sounds awesome @Lofu

DS1 didn’t really talk until 2. He’s more than made up for it since!!

I think with twins especially, they don’t need to talk as they have each other to babble to IYSWIM. That’s why you sometimes hear of twins who have made up their own language as they can communicate with each other so no need for anyone else’s language! Same with the walking, if they’re generally sat together they won’t see the need to be up and about like the older DC, as they have company on the floor.

I’m not a twin expert or indeed a baby expert, but if they’re happy and healthy try not to fret about milestones etc. They’ll get there when they get there.

This year of all years, with no baby groups or family get togethers to stimulate them, it must have been so hard for you to keep them occupied. Bung the TV on something vaguely educational and give yourself a break, you’re doing fine

I think that's one of the reasons I need reassurance Mark cos normally you'd see the other babies not doing X and Y yet but we're in our own bubble. The sodding 10 month old I see via school run is walking and the other one the same age walked at 10 months room. But we see no one else. And our bubble burst so we're not even doing school run to do the sled depreciating rant about my non walking babes

I think you need a large gin and to take deep breath, they sound just fine!!

I don’t know my 1st got up and walked across the room but never crawled. Didn’t really speak clearly until they went to preschool. On the hand my 2nd also walked at 9 months but was also a fully trained negotiator by 18 months. Both brought up exactly the same.

Yeah I might regret to taking clearly, I'll never win once they discover team work

They sound totally fine for 15 months! DD didn’t talk much at all until 2. Not sure at what age she could identify her nose but I’m sure they’ll figure it out before they’re adults xD

OP remember that twins can develop differently.
Mine are 3yo. DD said her first word very distinctly "ma ma" - her nursery keyworker told me - at 8 mos corrected. She walked at 13 mos corrected and is very "forward" now.

Her twin did not walk till 20 mos, everything was later and more difficult with him. He'd had a difficult birth and was small (3.5 lbs) at birth. He was just slower. I worried he had developmental delays.

Then, he just sort of flowered. He is still much physically clumsier and less developed than his sister, but he has his own talents. He is absolutely obsessed with Numberblocks and can reliably recognise written up to 20 and counts very confidently.

At 15 mos, I wouldn't worry. Give them gentle stimulation, plenty of fresh air, good sleep and exercise. They'll come along.

*written numbers

Given your user name and your lack of coherence I'd have thought the #1 priority would be for you to get some decent sleep.

Then relax.

Tell them!! They wake for a drink reliability at around 1 and or 4 am. This morning's 3.30 party involved squeals and absolute hysterics so god only knows what hilarity was going on in their dark bedroom. Me coming in just made th stand up and squeal more excitedly.

OP mine have only just got to a stage where we reliably get a full night. You"'ll get there.

@SleepingStandingUp

Sorry I think I meant block and ball. Goddamit, no wonder they're struggling,their mother is going insane.

You are very funny. Your toddlers sound fine!

I'm sorry but your post did make me smile - I remember that brain fog well! They sound lovely, happy to babble away to each other. DS 1 was late to speak - like nearly 4 before intelligible but he was like a mime - gesticulating dramatically as he burbled away and I generally worked it out. He's fine now. In fact thinking about it he hit all the milestones later than his younger brother did - if I'd had them in the reverse order I'd have probably been well worried but as it was I didn't know any better!

If they’re twins they may possibly reach developmental stages a bit differently to single children. And with the speaking, they may take longer than average too as twins can develop twin speak before proper language skills. Overall though if you’re worried give your health visitor a call, or ask to speak to your practice nurse

How many toddlers do you have?

It's so long ago since I had one I honestly can't remember when he knew the whereabouts of his nose or toes; the important thing is - he does now :-).