So confused need guidance

[subbysammiexoxo]

I broke up with my ex of five years a while back he was fairly abusive etc don't want to go into it but truly thought I would never move on. Anyhow, I appear to have 2 serious contenders and I'm really anxious about making the wrong decision again, one, from my hometown, I met not long after my breakup online we had this real chemistry but didn't end great because of other people getting involved and I was scared because he's abit older than me and has a wonderful child who I don't want to be dragged through any drama. After that I met another guy in my university city,y age we get on great etc but early days yet really I guess but guy 1 has been on my mind alot and I can't shake it, we absolutely just had a really crazy deep connection (yes were close still he has expressed he would still love to be with me. You're all going to think I'm crazy now but I loosely follow astrology and guy 1 is a gemini and guy 2 a taurus (I'm a virgo if that helps.)
Thankypu all stay kind I have aspergers I genuinely struggle to read scenerios just looking for help and guidance xx

Stars mean diddly squat in my world.

However, I’m concerned about your history. Have you spent any time completely by yourself, to heal, without a man nipping at your heels?

You need to take some time feeling secure about what your wants and needs are to make sure that you don’t end up losing yourself in a man and can see the red flags for what they are.

I’d agree with taking time to understand yourself first and particularly what allowed you to accept abuse and how you will recognise and avoid it in future (having been there myself). Often it’s about self-esteem and valuing yourself and I found counselling helpful to see where I wasn’t doing that and to be clear about what I wanted and deserved.
Well done for recognising that involving children in drama is not ok, by the way - that is a good thought to hold onto.
So: no need to feel like you have to make any decisions. If either or both of these people like and want to be with you they will still be around when you are ready. And if not, they are literally no loss to you.