Policeman refusing to help woman because he's 'had enough'

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Woman flashed after Sarah Edward vigil 'distraught' as policeman refused to help

www.mirror.co.uk/tv/tv-news/woman-sexually-harassed-sarah-everard-23734164

This is so shocking and infuriating to read!
The police really aren't helping themselves in light of recent events.

I asked the police for help with my ex screaming down the phone at me constantly they said change your number we have kids together I can't, just hang up on him it makes him worse, switch your phone off, ive got young kids at school I need my phone on look luv 🙄 if he shows up at your house and hits you we might be able to do something until then its all heresy he rang my phone constantly while I was in there they said see just ignore it he will stop eventually he never has

The police are untouchable

Read these absolutely horrific stories - these police officers are still serving in the Met

Nicole Smallman and Bibaa Henry

‘The mother of two sisters murdered in a park said her grief had "been taken to another place" after two officers were suspended amid allegations they took selfies next to their bodies.’

www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-london-53198702

Banaz Mahmood

‘On New Year's Eve that year, she told them her father had tried to kill her but the officer did not take her claims seriously.

Her body was found months later on April 28 2006, crammed into a suitcase and buried in a pit, the bootlace used to strangle her still around her neck.’

www.theguardian.com/uk/2007/jun/12/ukcrime.prisonsandprobation1

I think a lot of people don’t realise how bad the police are, I didn’t until I actually had something to do with them. If I hadn’t have I’d have merrily gone through life giving them the benefit of the doubt.

Undercover officers in nightclubs? That's an impossibly stupid idea which must have been devised by someone who's never set foot in one. What will they do? How long will they remain undercover whilst not drinking and not leching after the customers? How many brawls might they start? If they just did their current job, and remembered women are not here to provide them with hilarious anecdotes for their mates, that would be more than enough.

We most definitely don't need tighter law. It's not the law which is the problem.

Really, you could be forgiven for thinking that Tory central office get people to comment on some of these threads. We never used to see that.

What we actually need is a massive education programme In schools universities tv radio social media etc
Aimed at men. To clearly and repeatedly say
Women don’t like being leared at/ shouted at / talked to / touched while we’re out walking home/ jogging/ walking the dog / supermarket. Shopping / on a night out etc etc

It’s not a compliment to be wolf whistled at

Just stop

And also towards the decent men to encourage them reign their mates in - make it clear man to man that’s not acceptable behaviour

My own experience with the police is that they don't give a shiny shit about women/girls at all.

My youngest daughter went through a very self-destructive phase when she was 15-16. Initially she was involved with a grooming gang - I had actual evidence of them arranging to meet my daughter after school, the police weren't interested so I went to the school to meet them. I got them on camera, one of them was my age - took the footage to the police, again, not interested. Apparently waiting on a public road is not a crime, even if the reason why you're waiting is to rape a child!

Not long after my daughter got into a relationship with an abusive (young) man. This man had been in prison for sex with a minor (though he was accused of rape of 2 young girls, but obviously (🙄) was found not guilty on those charges) I tried everything to get her away from this man; it caused us hell as a family and I lost my daughter for a while. He raped my daughter frequently, once tried to set her on fire - god I could go on for ages about what an evil bastard he was. despite all this the police played down his crimes (he'd been accused of rape by at least 8 different young women by the time he was 23 - fucking EIGHT! Went to court for 2!)

When my daughter eventually reported him they didn't take it seriously. They initially said they would arrest him and they'd put a marker on our house so if we called the police it would be considered urgent - they did neither of those things. The police's poor response made my daughter believe none of these things were a big deal - she thought i was the enemy because I despised him, and she went back time and time again.

Sorry if this is garbled, it honestly was the worst time of my life and I will never forgive the police for how they behaved. I just wanted to get it written down but apologies if I don't respond to any replies, please know I appreciate any acknowledgment but I can't dwell on this shit too much or it hurts my brain.

Luckily my daughter came through the other side; she's doing well now, I'm really, really very proud of her. The ex is still free to rape/murder whoever he wants, and I'm sure he will - no doubt his victims are in double digits now.

The police may be understaffed, they may be underfunded, but the problem is more than that - it's deep-rooted misogyny. They believe, I think, young women are there to be used and poor men just can't help it. Depressing.

I should add too that the ex has a supervisor within the police (sorry, I can't remember what they're called, but someone who is supposed to keep an eye on him as he's on the sex offenders register) I too keep an eye on him through social media - last year I seen on SM that he'd got into a relationship with a young woman who had a child - I reported it to the NSPCC. Their relationship ended a few days later after the NSPCC acted. My point being though, I reported it, not the police - he'd probably still be in that relationship if it was left to the police to supervise him 🙄

I think a lot of people don’t realise how bad the police are, I didn’t until I actually had something to do with them.

Yep.

My own experience with the police is that they don't give a shiny shit about women/girls at all.

Yep.

Lemmein, that's awful, I'm sorry your family has had such terrible experiences. If I had reported every time I've been groped, grabbed, insulted or catcalled or flashed, it would be in the hundreds. Same for most women. Unless it's of the seriousness that your family has experienced we generally just shrug it off. So we habituate ourselves to maltreatment. I hope your family remains well.

The police stood by and enabled those poor, vulnerable girls to be raped and trafficked in Rotherham and in other places. As a pp said, it's actually misogyny behind this. So many women who have gone to the police regarding DV and been disbelieved or just not taken seriously. A taxi driver, Worboys was enabled to continue raping women because the police did not take those women seriously.

Women have a right to life. Women have a right to live free from fear. Women also pay taxes and deserve state protection. This isn't good enough.

lemmein that’s horrific. You sound like an amazing mum.

@Heatherjayne1972

What we actually need is a massive education programme In schools universities tv radio social media etc Aimed at men. To clearly and repeatedly say Women don’t like being leared at/ shouted at / talked to / touched while we’re out walking home/ jogging/ walking the dog / supermarket. Shopping / on a night out etc etc It’s not a compliment to be wolf whistled at

Just stop

And also towards the decent men to encourage them reign their mates in - make it clear man to man that’s not acceptable behaviour

Absolutely this. Won’t happen as long as they keep whining “not all men”.