anyone else living in a family with disfunctonal husband and teenagers

[AuntieMeemz]

DH has mental illness which over the years has made life increasingly difficult. DD says I don't treat DH right. My patience with DH ran out years ago! He is kind etc, but like a living zombie due to medication. Divorce etc would not bring a solution as he wouldn't be able to manage on is own, and would still be relying on me. I'm absolutley exhausted having to run the house, the family and DH. How do other people cope?

That sounds really difficult. I'm not sure many would cope with that. Is you DH's GP/ psych team aware that he's like a zombie on meds? Can they be reviewed?
You don't mention how old the children are, are they able to have regular jobs to do to lessen the burden?
Can you get hello fresh or gusto boxes to make that side a little easier or can you meal prep so dinner is reheating a chilli, bolognese, stew, lasagne etc?

meecrowahvay-We are both in our 50s.Psych team are aware but can't do much to help. DH is reducing medication but that makes side effect (constand writhing, fidgeting, face pawing, mouth moving) much worse.In most ways he is like a 2 year old, and I have to think for him and be vigilant 24/7. I can't sit with him. Eating with him is a major challenge, like he is a 2 year old. Children are teenagers who do jobs, but I have to chase them. DH has family even more pyschotic than him, with far worse issues so can't get any support there. I like the idea of Hello Fresh etc, just to give life a bit of a refresher. Good idea.