I know it's silly but my mum is famous in her family for 'marrying late' and now I'm older than her and still single

[AlfredThePug]

I'm stupidly down about it.

My mum's family always go on and on about how old she was marrying and how old she was having me (33 and 34 respectively).

I know it's stupid and the world has moved on, but I am the only single one in my immediate group of friends and my wider group of friends too. The last year has obviously been crap. I don't want to be 33 tomorrow! Can I not have a refund?!

I know a couple of people who got married at 39 and had their first baby at 40/41.
You've got another 5 years.

I got married at 40 and had my children at 41 and 44. I wish I'd met DH earlier, but I didn't and it's all worked out fine.

If you read the relationship boards you will see that marriage isn't all that tbh

You are still so young.

For what it's worth a friend of mine didn't meet her husband until she was 40. She's glad she waited as he'd bloody golden to be fair.

She had her lovely little dd at 42.

Thanks. I feel so old and left out tbh. Hopefully things pick up soon.

I got married for the first time at 42.

The average age for marrying and having children has increased hasn't it? My parents were the oldest of my friends' when I was at school and they were 32 when I was born. I was single til I was 36 and had my DC at 41 and 43. I seem to be twice the age of some of the DC's parents, 5-10 years older than most of them and the same age as another few. There are lots of different kinds of families now, and it's no-one else's business anyway :) But yes we should all get a refund on the 2020 birthday, go ahead with that one!

My mum was always seen as such an old mum. I don't feel even slightly ready to have kids, but it's such a shock to realise that I might be judged as too old by others.