Was Your Mother’s Day As You Expected?

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Sadly mine was, which was no interest at all from DD12. She did say “ Happy Mother’s Day “ but that was all. I used to get so much from her when she was younger. DH cooked tea, which was delicious, so that was something. I tried to avoid social media describing breakfasts in bed, champagne, bouquets of flowers, chocolates, takeaways & homemade cards.

The days always being hard for me after years and years of being unable to fall Pregnant. This year even more so as it Would've been my first Mother's Day but we lost our Baby last year. My OH surprised me with a visit though. We didn't think we'd see each other cos he's a Truck driver and we live long distance but chance had him delivering where I live. He gave me a cuddle and wished me happy Mother's Day and said to remember that just because our Baby isn't with us that I'm still a mum and to never let anyone take that away from me.

Mine was not great. Dh/dc had forgotten...

Dd14 wouldn't come for a walk and told me that she doesn't like spending time with the family and she'd rather stay home on her own.

It rained on the walk and we got soaked. Dh cooked dinner and despite him usually being a great cook - it wasn't up to his usual standard (I think he tried too hard). So I went to bed hungry.

My husband always says to me “You’re not my mother so it’s not up to me,” He doesn’t even bother with his own mother anyway.

Eldest (16) got me a gift. Middle didn’t acknowledge it (13 and self absorbed). Youngest did bring me breakfast in bed.

DH woke me up with coffee and a card. Went on a long run so that teen DCs had time to sort themselves out. Came home to waffles cards, flowers and chocolates. DH nagged them to clean their rooms "for me". We had my favourite dinner. Not a bad day. Zoom with my Mum at 12

I got a nice present but was actually hoping for a bit of a break but I didn’t get that, probably a bit hopeful really as even when DH tries my 3 year olds will come and find me

After ds1 dropped the last bottle of milk, dh tried to find a shop open at 7am that sells milk. The only shop he found open was a flower shop with a queue.

I thought it was funny and what a smart business plan! I also got the promise from ds1 when he realised it was Mother’s Day, that he would be on his best behaviour and the best good listening day ever. What more could I want!

My 17yo bought me a bottle of perfume as he’d noticed I was running low and got a moonpig card in which he wrote the most amazing message of love and gratitude. I’ve been a single mum for 9 years and he thanked me for providing a safe, happy and non judgmental space for him to grow and find who he is and his path. The frontal lobe has finally connected, I feel. The perfume was a lovely touch but that card will be buried with me. The day before I found a Polaroid, our first picture together in the delivery room. I was convinced for 18 years I’d never had that moment captured. That’s now inside the card. It all felt like a beautiful turning point as he’s on the cusp of manhood and I’m very emotional about it still on Tuesday.

I was very disappointed in ds's. Both had been reminded by Dh twice. I actually burst into tears because I was so upset by it.
And they haven't been very pleasant since. And when they finally bother to ask, I will definitely tell them exactly what I think.

I went for a walk my adult daughters....yes both of them ( small rule break) and we didn't even share a hug BUT it was so lovely so see them both at the same time which we hadn't done since Xmas Day .
They gave me some really thoughtful gifts from the boot of one of the cars !
I felt loved

Mine was less raw than other years.

Lost my eldest son to cancer 7 years ago and my mum the following year. Mother's Day since then has been painful.

This year I didn't cry on waking. My other son popped round with daffodils, and homemade gifts - he'd made pop cakes, a beautiful candle and painted a card with some lovely words in. We went for a lovely walk together. We had a coffee afterwards using my Mums favourite mugs that I have. Neither of us could mention my son/his brother - that bit is just too raw still.

Yes, it was and it needs to change.

I got a card and some chocolates but the day itself was annoying and as the youngest mum generationally, all I end up doing is running about after all the other mums in the family to make sure that they have had their homage paid. I don't think anyone gets anything out of it.

From next year, I am proposing a quiet morning with my own children, followed by some kind of mums' lunch where we all go out together and have a nice afternoon paid for by husbands.

Yes, lovely cards from DD and DSD (who quite rightly spent the day with her own mum), a few chocolate based presents. Takeaway lunch from my fave sandwich shop. DH took DD out so I could have a long shower and get dressed in peace. Went for a walk. Tired DD out enough for her to have a long nap while we watched a film. There would have been wine at some point too if I wasn’t preggers. Lovely

We never usually bother with it (my choice) so expected nothing. However, DH, teen DD and DS made a huge effort and had planned several surprises. They did it because its been a tough year and so many other planned events couldn't happen.