People who are simple but really nice

[Ladywinesalot]

I know a few like this who don’t seem to have a bad bone in the body and wish the world well.

I always feel like such a guilty prick around them for having any kind of bad thoughts (I have lots)
Ppl like that really humble and calm me and remind me to be nicer.

Anyone else ever feel like that?

Simple?

People who are simple? What on earth do you mean by that?

Hmmm think you are being simple by categorising people so narrowly. How do you know their inner thoughts?

I really hope you mean "simple" as in "straightforward and uncomplicated".

Oh my god. Most of my friends are exactly this, real salt of the earth normal, straightforward uncomplicated genuine decent human beings. I'm really fortunate that those I work with are mostly like that. Really teach me to be a better person.

Hang around more with these people.

My mum is exactly like this and everyday I wish I was the mum that she is. I feel my kid has a bit of a crap mother in comparison, who has no idea what she's doing. However, my mum does lack intuition. She was unable to read between the lines, couldn't see when there were things wrong with me that I wasn't telling her. Whereas I have that in spades, I can see when something is up with my son that he's bottling up.

I have quite a few people like this in my life.

I wouldn't equate that ability to wish everybody well with being simple!

I think it shows incredibly high emotional intelligence and huge self-awareness to wish everybody around you well. At least half of people project all of their failings outwards. They may be really smart but they blame others for the emotions they can't process.

It made me think that all this bull about ''be kind'' it should be ''be self-aware'' because so much of the ''unkindness'' is people utilising defense mechanisms and projections to avoid difficult emotions like shame, with absolutely no consciousness.

I know people who are people pleasing so long as you don't challenge (even to defend a personal boundary) their perception of themself.

Then they project on to you and still feel the victim. ie, that you're the villain and you lack ''kindness''

One of my good friends is like this. She just doesn't let you bitch to her about anyone. She just diffuses the conversation in a really calm way that makes me feel guilty for even having those thoughts in the first place! I'm always trying to learn from people like this, as a pp said they teach me to be a better person

Ok so im going to assume you mean 'simple' as down to earth, grounded, no nonsense people. When I think of this, one person in my life springs to mind. I do try and use her way of being as sort of a guide to how I do things. Actually since ive done this im a bit happier.