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If you haven't put a photo of your mum/wife on facebook on mothers day did it even happen?

59 replies

NutellaEllaElla · 14/03/2021 18:49

Seems not.

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ConeHat · 14/03/2021 21:38

The thing about Fb is that you can never win with certain people.

Eg dh one year wished his dm happy birthday on FB. Cue mil crying that he did it on SM.

This year it was offline, she cried she had 200 beautiful messages on FB but none from him.

How can you please everyone? I tend to please myself now.

bigbluebus · 14/03/2021 21:38

I had a private discussion with my friends on Whatsapp about our Mother's and our DCs. I sent a message to my DC this morning to thank them for my card and gifts and spoke later on the phone. My own Mother died 4 years ago. I cannot vist her grave due to Covid but I didn't see the point in posting a Happy Mother's Day in heaven message on Facebook - she's not going to see it!

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NutellaEllaElla · 14/03/2021 21:46

@BeckyWithTheGoodHair5629456

Well you're clearly miserable. I put a post up wishing my mum a happy Mother's Day, because she's bloody ace. I'll do what I want on my own social media.
Maybe Grin My mum's bloody ace too. I told her so. Not online though.

Of course you can post whatever you like, it just seems like a performance to me.

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Starlightstarbright1 · 14/03/2021 22:30

@DDIJ

My DC do not have a photo of me and never will. We are not really a family so I wouldn't expect them to be posting on social media about making me an omelette or whatever it is people do.
I think that is realky sad they don't have a picture if you.. i an not sure whybyou aren't a family but kids love rhere parents no matter how they pwecievevtgey kook - thats Mum or Dad
donewithitalltodayandxmas · 14/03/2021 23:33

If people don't like it , just don't go on facebook

donewithitalltodayandxmas · 14/03/2021 23:36

Also what is facebook for otherwise ?
Its all about people posting about themselves and families , kids etc
I only joined years ago and accepted some friend request etc to see if the best looking boy at school has still got the looks ( he hasn't )

sleeplessinthecountryside · 15/03/2021 00:10

I haven't posted on Facebook. I'm sure my mum knows I love her and she's never on Facebook anyway. So who would I be posting for? Me I suppose. Not interested x

FaceyRomford · 15/03/2021 01:09

Why would I post a picture of my wife? She's not my mother.

orpah · 15/03/2021 03:33

@Foxyloxy1plus1

It smacks of virtue signalling, both from the sender and the receiver.
Do you know what virtue signalling means? 😂
orpah · 15/03/2021 03:35

@DDIJ

My DC do not have a photo of me and never will. We are not really a family so I wouldn't expect them to be posting on social media about making me an omelette or whatever it is people do.
Eh? Your kids don’t have a single photo of you? You’re ‘not really a family’?
MiddleParking · 15/03/2021 05:57

Virtue signalling Grin

yearinyearout · 15/03/2021 06:33

Well my DSis puts such an OTT post on fb, with a dozen photos, gushing about how wonderful dm is, that I know anything I put would pale into insignificance. So I don't bother.

Housewife2010 · 15/03/2021 06:42

Slightly off topic, but I had so many "Happy Mother's Day" messages on my WhatsApp /Messenger groups yesterday. They were several school parents' groups and a personal friends group where they all kept wishing everyone in the group Happy Mother's Day. It just seemed odd to me. I'm not their Mother and would only expect to hear it from my children.

alanpartridgefromtheoasthouse · 15/03/2021 06:54

If you don't sneer at the way other people use social media, are you even superior to them?

Rockbird · 15/03/2021 06:59

I put a pic of my mother. She's not on SM but she sneaks onto my dad's and she quite likes seeing a (pre-approved) photo on there once a year. She's 75 and lovely so if anyone doesn't like it they can fuck right off. It's my page and I'll put what I like on it.

Oblomov21 · 15/03/2021 07:04

No. I sent my mum a really nice card. I phoned her on Saturday.

Moomoolandmoomooland · 15/03/2021 07:05

I'm not on Facebook. Do I even exist?!

Pinchoftum · 15/03/2021 07:11

I love seeing old pictures of people with their Mums. Especially old friends whose Mums I knew. But have no pictures of myself. I didn't post anything but just to be aware what am I allowed to post?

doctorhamster · 15/03/2021 07:13

My mum would be horrified and pissed off if I put a photo of her on social media so I can't possibly have sent her a card and a bottle of her favourite gin. Didn't happen.

fluffythedragonslayer · 15/03/2021 07:13

Ahhh I loved my FB feed yesterday because there were lots of lovely photos of my friends with the mums! I'm confused about what social media is for if not that kind of thing 😂

ShadierThanaPalmTree · 15/03/2021 07:14

I could not agree more. Gushing posts about how their mum is their bestest friend and they wouldnt' know where they would be without her blablabla and their DM isn't even on Facebook Hmm so disingenuous.

TwoZeroTwoZero · 15/03/2021 07:18

I posted a nice photo of my mum on facebook and tagged her in it. It's a nice photo, she saw it and responded and was happy I'd done so. I also saw her in person and gave her a card. Sneer as much as you like but I don't really care what other people thought when they saw it.

miserablecat · 15/03/2021 07:24

I usually put one of my fave pics of my DM on fb. Because I want to. She died a long time ago.

All of sm is optional, I'm not that fussed about seeing photos of peoples dinner, but I just scroll past. Same way if people find a pic of my mum distasteful or cringey they are also welcome to ignore it.

wonkylegs · 15/03/2021 07:25

I posted a current picture of my mum but that's because she's now in care with dementia and I'm followed by lots of relatives and her friends, some of whom I didn't know before she got this damned disease but feel the need to update them when I can. It was a nice photo sent by the care home of her smiling with some crafts my kids sent her so thought it would show everyone she's doing ok and still smiling.

sunflowersandbuttercups · 15/03/2021 07:53

I find all the threads whining about Facebook much more grating than a few photos of some flowers or people saying how much they love their mums.