Have you ever stopped someone seeing/spending time with your child because they smoke?

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I have a toddler and live with my partner (neither of us smoke) however toddler sees grandparent, who does smoke. Not in the house, but still, I don’t think that makes much difference. It’s only really just clicked now, about the second hand smoke. Feeling incredibly guilty after reading about secondhand smoke and my child is already 13 months old. They probably see grandparents once every 7/10 days. They hold grandchild, play with them, all sorts. They do normally wash their hands after smoking but meh, Have a put my child in danger? Having delayed guilt on this!!

Has anyone successfully to a family member or friend they can’t see or play with child when they’ve smoked? As I’m contemplating that. That’s how guilty I feel!

It's so hard, I'd feel the same. Luckily my DCs smoking granny lives abroad and we don't see her. I don't know what I'd do in your situation.

It’s not often enough to be a problem.

Your child does not live in an environment where the air is pure and clean. They will breathe on exhaust fumes, particles from the dreaded wood burners and all kinds of other crap on a regular basis that will be potentially far more damaging than this.

Cutting contact with a beloved grandparent because they smoke outdoors and you see them once a week would be a ludicrous over reaction.

Yes

My nan is a heavy smoker. She did try and stop but she’s been diagnosed with cancer and she’s pretty much gone fuck it now.

We saw her the first time in a year last week and it hasn’t got any better.

I was left with an awful chest, all 3 of us reeked with smoked and a yellow film even came off ds.

Problem is, I can’t tell her not to smoke. It’s her house. She knows I don’t like it, and I hate taking my kids to see her when she’s been smoking

Because of how ill I was last week, I have now decided it will be an outdoor visit at parks and that from now on.

Thanks lovelies. Yes I realise total overreaction BUT just reading about it gave me the fear like it’s something I should’ve been acutely aware of and have only just clocked, so I felt some hard guilt 👀

I don’t think it would be a harsh thing to do, and the “cut off” terms would be on them - they want to smoke, fine, but realise for my child’s safety I don’t want them exposed to that so it’s up to them. Am I supposed to just shrug off my concerns in fear of them being offended? I used to smoke, quit when I fell pregnant and not touched one since. I must also add that another family member in the Same household smokes weed outside. I think all of this has really made me think about what I should be doing to protect my child being exposed to these elements, if I can help it

Family members who we were in regular contact with smoked indoors when our eldest was a baby. We asked them not to smoke indoors when we were visiting their house with the baby. They told us where to go... Their house, their rules etc. Which was fair enough. It was our rules when it came to our baby though and we stopped visiting. After a few months they contacted us to say they had reconsidered and were willing not to smoke while we were there.

Every smoker in my family agreed to move to outside smoking, washing hands, brushing teeth.
Which I felt was enough as someone brought up by two inside smokers.

We have two children. My husband is a smoker, but there is a rule in one house: nobody smokes inside. No matter who comes (friends, relatives, etc.), all of them go out to smoke. Also, my parents smoke and my hubby's mother. I know that this is a bad example for my children, and also I know that I will have to take effort in future to explain them that smoking is bad.