Vests

[lostPEkit]

Not a very seasonal query but do 4-5 years olds have to wear vests all year round? Obviously it's cold right now but what about in the height of summer?

No they don't if they dont want or need to

No only in the colder months here

I'm sorry, ?

Surely you dress a child of any age according to the weather/temperature at the time, not their age

Would you put a vest in a 2 year old if it was 25° just because they were 2?

Just work it out on the day

Thank you! I'm of the school of "Is DD hot/cold? Ok, add or remove layers accordingly" but my mother is getting at me already about the need for DD to wear vests all summer (not because of the potential for getting cold but because she might need to get changed at school). My priority is that she isn't bundled up in layers of we have another heatwave but I honestly have no idea what's normal.

honestly have no idea what's normal.

You are normal OP.

Why is your mother so invested in what your child is wearing, and how did she even raise that with you?

My mother is invested in bloody everything, tbh (and she knows DSIL wouldn't put up with her views on toddler DN being too old for breastfeeding etc so I get the brunt of it). I know I'm a wuss but I spend a lot of my childhood and teens being the object of humour about how careless, frumpy, untidy, clumsy and so on I am, so my faith in my own judgment is pretty low and I worry about fucking up.

I keep dds on til the end of May because my parents had a little rhyme about it. Not all year though.

@Astraturf is that 'Ne'er cast a clout till May be out?'

I'd always been told that May referred to the May blossom, not the month. So April.

I don't think DD ever wore a vest, just layers of tops/jumpers etc if it was cold

If they want to ( they are often softer than school shirts and shirts can be see through) then she can wear one. Of not not don't have to. It's up to you akd your child not your mum

My children haven’t worn vests since babyhood. They’re still alive. They don’t change for PE at school right now due to covid, but even if they did, I’m really not bothered about a bunch of five year olds and their teacher seeing my child’s bare chest.

Mine have never worn vests except as babies
Mil is convinced this would mean certain death but as they are 12 and 16 I think it will be ok

[quote LadyofMisrule]@Astraturf is that 'Ne'er cast a clout till May be out?'

I'd always been told that May referred to the May blossom, not the month. So April.[/quote]
That's the one!
It's a confusing rhyme if it's really april

Thanks, everyone! And sorry for not responding before - I dropped my phone in the loo and have been trying to dry it out .

I think the consensus is that vest-wearing should be a judgement call based on the season and weather conditions, and not a must because it would be immodest for a four year-old not to wear one? That was my view but I really appreciate the confirmation!

If anyone wants a laugh, my mother literally screamed in a public car park one time because she picked up baby DD and discovered that she wasn’t wearing knickers. Nappy, yes. Long frilly dress down to her ankles? Yes. But I think DD had had a wee accident or something and I didn’t have spare knickers in the bag. I thought my mother had spotted blood or a scary rash or something but no, it was just the fact that you could see a baby’s nappy if you pulled her skirt up .

I never ever covered my daughter’s nappies with knickers. Admittedly she mostly wore trousers, but still, even in a dress, no knickers until the nappies were done with. It’s a nappy, it’s not going to blind anyone who sets eyes on it.

A four year old doesn’t need a vest for modesty. They don’t have breasts, why would they need to cover their chests?!

“It’s a nappy, it’s not going to blind anyone who sets eyes on it.”