Anyone else not acknowledged on Mother’s Day? Feeling sad

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My husband and I don’t usually give big presents to each other. For Christmas, birthday, anniversary we usually get each other a card and something small 10£-20£. Sometimes just a card really.

Last year was my first Mother’s Day. My husband didn’t get me a card or anything and I told him I was sad and really wanted a card, so he went to get me one.

I was disappointed that I even had to ask.

This year I didn’t bring up Mother’s Day and I could tell he had nothing prepared for me because he is really bad with surprises and he would have told me.

Yesterday evening I went to the supermarket nearby and bought myself a card and a mug saying “mummy I love you”

When my daughter woke up this morning I pointed at the bag where my presents were and said “daddy, bring the presents Baby bought for mummy”
He gave me the bag, showed no interest on what’s inside and said: “oh yes, it’s Mother’s Day, I didn’t get you anything, sorry, I better go and call my mum now.”
And he left to call him mum and we didn’t mention Mother’s Day anymore today.

I feel hurt and I cried a little. I don’t want him to know as I feel a bit childish for wanting attention and crying over the lack of it.

But I just really wanted a card or at the very minimum a “happy Mother’s Day”from him.

He is such a good husband and father, I don’t know why I am so sad over something small.

I am pregnant so maybe hormones don’t help

It's poor on his part. Have a chat with him, tell him how you feel.

If he's generally decent I would chalk it up to him not understanding how important it is to you. In your shoes I would have a think about why it's important to me and then frame it as "When you didn't acknowledge mothers day it made me feel..."
My DH and I are similar to you in terms of Christmas, birthdays etc, so he assumed that I would be similarly unbothered about mothers day. In my case that assumption is right but in yours it obviously isn't. But from his POV it probably seems arbitrary that you're not fussed about other "days" but you are about this one. Totally valid for you to feel that way; he just probably doesn't realise.

Oh OP, your post made me feel so sad. I would be hurt by this too. I don’t place that much emphasis on Mother’s Day but I think it’s a very emotive day for a lot of people for many reasons. You told your husband that it’s important to you though so he should respect that. Is he maybe just not very good at remembering events like this? Does he remember birthdays, anniversaries etc?

I had this one year. Nothing. My dh didn't do anything for me with my son ( fairly young )
What was worse we then had to go to my mums for Mother’s Day dinner. And then nothing still got said. Have my mum her card and present. Didn’t say a word to my husband at how disappointed I was.
Never happened again.