This is my story of how being a woman feels

[NoEffingWay]

Thinking about my life so far, and how so much of it has been shaped by awareness of being female makes me more vulnerable. There are many stories like mine, and I am 'lucky' I have not been seriously assaulted.

To the man who took my virginity when I was 15, and he was 22. When I said I wasn't ready, why did you insist I needed to as I said I would?

To the boyfriend who carried on having sex with me when I was 25, even though I was crying, why did you think that was okay?

To the countless men who felt my breasts, and bottom as I walked by you in bars and clubs, why did you think that was acceptable?

Why did I feel guilty for 'allowing these things to happen to me'?

It could have been me, it could have been any of us.

Something has to change.

Yes so sad and so many of us have been through this

I just had a flashback earlier when I was ten I walking to a friends house (we live in a quiet rural area)
I was skipping along the road it was dark
A soldier (n Ireland) was hiding in the hedge and he shouted out 'show me your knickers'
Wtf is wrong with men like this
I was 10

I have a friend who grew up in Northern Ireland during the Troubles. The harassment she endured from British army soldiers would bring you to tears. They were young men and probably petrified at the thought of being blown up or shot dead and that would bring you to tears too..

I relate so much to your post and feel the same way. So much of my life has been coloured by abusive men. In my childhood random men thought they could come upto me on the street and touch my hair.

I tried to better my life a few years ago by going back to education. I met a creep who started stalking me and kept pressuring me to have an affair with him. He would turn up at my door wanting me to give him oral sex. It got to the point I thought I would have to get the police involved and in the back of his mind, he still thought I had an Interest in him (even knowing I'm a lesbian).

I think so many of us have been through a lot