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hippychick11 · 12/03/2021 12:12

I wondered if anyone else has come out as lesbian or perhaps bisexual later. I'm 39 and only came out in the last year, though those close to me always kinda knew I was a lesbian. However I feel like I have missed out on a lot of time and potentially dating who I would have preferred to.
I knew I was a lesbian since I was a teenager but had chronic low self esteem and felt because my friends all had boyfriends that I had to too, which led to me feeling even more depressed. I finally knew a few years ago that I had to be true to myself and it has made all the difference to my self esteem.

Even though it sounds silly, I feel like my time is running out to meet someone at almost 40. I could never have children due to PCOS and it's not something I feel sad about anymore, so I know that same urgency isn't there and realistically I know that I could meet an amazing woman at any age. A friend met her partner at 50.

The whole thing is just getting me down a little bit. Anyone had similar experiences?

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mummof1 · 12/03/2021 14:12

Hi sorry I dont. I'm 26 years old and have joined this site to gain new friendships. Lockdown is lonely for me. I think it's great what you have done and you will be super happy when you find the right lady for you. Speak anytime xxx

ohnoisaid2much · 12/03/2021 15:36

Congrats on coming out and making the decision to live your truth.

I've not had your specific experience but I do know what it's like to chart new territory alone. All I can say is no matter how steep the learning curve it's better than staying in your old ways unhappily

Good luck!

LuvMyBoyz · 12/03/2021 15:45

Well done on being yourself. My friends met when they were 60 and have been together for 10 years. You have plenty of time . Try and relax and enjoy your realisation.

hippychick11 · 12/03/2021 16:24

@mummof1 that's so kind thank you. I'm sorry you have been finding lockdown hard. It has been such a difficult time and can be pretty isolating too

@ohnoisaid2much thank you. You're so right. I know I would be a lot more unhappy had I kept living my life as I was

@LuvMyBoyz aww that's amazing, so happy for them

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IWantMyHoney · 12/03/2021 16:31

Lots of women realise they're lesbian later in life. I am married to Dh but if we were ever to split for any reason (I hope we don't, love him to bits) but I'd never be with another man. I would be looking for a same sex relationship and I'm early 40s.
I don't think you've missed the boat at all and that there are thousands of women having that realisation at the moment.

IWantMyHoney · 12/03/2021 16:45

Also, if you're on reddit, there's a sub, late bloomer lesbians that might be helpful to you.

hippychick11 · 12/03/2021 18:26

@IWantMyHoney thanks for your kind words. Cool I'll check that sub out, sounds great Smile

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