Trigger warning and morbid but help appreciated

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A family member died two months ago. We have now been informed that they were not frozen and we have been advised not to see them.

Trying to speak to the relevant person is so difficult, I was hoping someone on here may have some knowledge as to what level of decomposition you may expect for somebody who died and bas been refrigerated for approx two months?

Thank you to anyone who can help.

My brother died abroad many years ago and it was a couple of weeks before we could repatriate his body.

My Mum was insistent that she wanted to see him, but we agreed that my brother and I would go and see him first. I am very glad we did - there is no way I would have wanted my Mum to remember him like that.

Please try to persuade your Mum that she should remember him as he was.

Such a difficult time for everyone. I am so sorry for your loss

I remember seeing my Dad not long after he’d died and the memory that stays with me is the overwhelming smell of the plug in air fresheners they use in the chapel of rest. It wasn’t pleasant at all and he had only been in there a day or two.

When mum died I didn’t want to go to the funeral home because all I remembered was that smell and to be honest writing it here I can almost taste it.

I’m so sorry for your loss.