Relationship advice please

[MissSparkle47]

Please can I have some advice, this is my first post...
I have been with my partner nearly 8 years. I sold my house and moved to his at the end of last year. We have brought some land and we are going to be building our own house and we needed the money to start things off.
Since I moved up it seems I cannot do anything right, I load the dishwasher wrong, don't make the bed right. Don't clean the sides down properly, don't make the bed properly. I walk on broken eggshells a lot. On Sunday i cooked a massive roast done alll the tidying up and because i didn't put the little silver plug (that collects the food) back in the sink hole properly he went mad. Calls me thick and says if i just do it how he wants it done he would have no reason to have a go at me.My 9 year old little dogs moved up with me because they wake up early and was quite unsettled he suggested we 'make a decision on them' for our quality of life. The have gone to my ex husbands now where my daughter is residing.
So I only had one child still living at home she is 17 she moved to her fathers when I moved to his as it is closer to college. She is going to University in September. They had a falling out last year which wasn't really anything to do with him but he has made it about him and hasn't seen her for 7 months. If i'd known she would never be able to stay I would have never moved up. His daughter lives with him every other week she is and as much as I love her i cannot help feel resentment that mine isn't allowed in the house. I know my friends a rethinking I am choosing him over my daughter and when i try to talk to him about any of this he shuts me down. my only saving grace at the minute is i work full time so can get out of the house. He has also criticised me for still wanting to see my children during Covid saying i should socially distance with them for a walk (when it is freezing and pouring down) but it is fine for his daughter to go between houses. He goes on to me for hours and hours and i am feeling mentally exhausted oh and quite homeless as he is quite regularly telling me to leave x

Surely he knew how you do things or that you don't do things exactly his way if you've been together for nearly 8 years... sounds like he's quite controlling and you may only see things getting worse.

Once you've resided together for a certain period of time and both contributed to bills and up-upkeep of a property. You're both entitled to half of the property if you were to split & sell. Leave now while you still have you're sanity and the money from your house sale.
No man / woman deserves to feel mentally exhausted constantly because of a partners behaviour.

Also think how your daughter may feel in regards to his children being able to be there and not yours. if you've moved in with him then it's technically your home too and your children should be able to come to your home and see you. Regardless of his opinions of her.
Sounds like if you don't put your foot down now and make how you're feeling clear to him then it may only get worse.
I'd choose yourself and your daughter over anyone making you feel this way.

What is your question? He Sound horrible, leave him and enjoy your children !! Best of luck

You are not unreasonable. he is a horrible bullying man who is trying to isolate you from your children. Leave as soon as you can before your relationship with your children is ruined forever. Ditto your mental health.

You have put him before your child and look how he’s rewarding you for it.
Do not get rid of your dog for him, get rid of him for your dog (and child).

Walk away. Never, ever put your partner above your child.

Your mental health is seriously at risk and he sounds vile. It is never going to get better.