Help. Vomit

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OH is throwing up. It's my worst fear. I can't bear it. I feel so panicky and I just can't handle it. He's really upset because I am not looking after him and being in the same room. But I just can't. I'm being awful aren't I?

What's wrong with him? Why is he sick?

Bug? Leave him to it.

Illness? He possibly needs support

Alcohol? Leave him to it

I would be exactly the same. Anyone vomits I am off like a shot. Then I would panic and not eat for 2-3 days incase I caught the bug.
Emetophobia google it.

You’re not being awful and adults don’t need looking after when they’re throwing up, unless they’re very ill. You can just keep an eye on him from a distance. Hope you’re both OK soon.

I have no idea why he's being sick. I can only assume a bug as he's not eaten anything dodgy and hasn't been drinking.

Why would you stay in the same room as an adult throwing up? Totally different if it’s a child, but he just needs to get it out of his system and you can look after him afterwards. I’m similar, OP, a real fear of vomiting, I never hang around if DH is ill and he’s never witnessed me puking either.
Hope he feels better soon.

I have had a few very unpleasant episodes of vomiting recently (suspected gallstones). I wouldn't have expected DH or DD to be in the same room as me at all - it's horrible when someone else is throwing up. What I have appreciated is them offering me cold/hot water and comfort/moral support between bouts of vomiting.

There is nothing that you can actually do by being in the same room as him, and he will feel just as shit whether you're there or not. Just leave him to it, but check every now and then if there is anything he needs.

COVID can sometimes present with gastric issues. Could it be that?

@Mrsrightagain I am the same as you. I really need a drink but I'm too scared to have one in case I ingest the germs. I know it's stupid. He's never ill and never asks anything from me he just says that he really needs someone to be with him. Because he never says things like that I just feel like I'm letting him down. But it's sick. And I can't bear it.

Stop judging yourself. He is doing something he wouldn't want to be watched doing, and you don't want to watch him doing it. That's fine.

Wait until he's got himself back into a relaxed, reclined position, and look after him then.

The throwing up bit of being ill is a bit like the 'diarrhoea' bit of being ill. It's private. You don't need to take part.

He works in a factory with a lot of people so feasibly could be covid but no way of knowing that at this point.

@Eckhart 🤣. Well said! I wouldn’t want to be watched on the loo either!

I'm emetophobic, I have trained my ds from a young age to deal with himself if he is sick. Make sure you have a couple of washing up bowls or buckets, something like 1001 carpet foam or shaving foam for if he doesn't make it to the bucket or toilet, cover the vomit with foam, it stops the smell & sight, then pick up with kitchen roll, wash floor with something like stardrops, once it is dry sprinkle with bicarbonate of soda, leave sn hour & hoover. Loads of bleach down the toilet, wipe all door handles, light switches etc Once he is better change all toothbrushes.

Tell him he's not a kid. Look after him
When he's stopped puking. I can't imagine my husband ever helping me puke, I wouldn't want him there!

Is he trying to insist you be in the same room as him whilst he pukes?!

Does he want you to wipe his bum for him too? It's on a par.

nah, stay away. he can look after himself.

He's an adult, unless he's dying or can't get off the floor why does he need to be cared for?

Screw that shit. I'm not even emetohobic, but nah, man. Nah. It's a part of life, if you don't need me to coo soothing words to you when you have diarrhea, you don't need me to hold your hand when you puke.