.. how common is it to feel like this?

[toignoreornotignorethatisthequ]

Up to now I hadn't been aware of the Ellie Gould typo amended by MNHQ at OP's request case, for reasons which may be obvious later. I was watching Breakfast this morning and her mother was interviewed. The poor woman wears an expression you might expect someone whose precious child who has been brutally murdered in the prime of life to wear; but she spoke with great clarity.

I looked up the Ellie Goulding case. When I was reading it I felt such a wave of profound frustration and sadness I know it will stay with me for days.
I wept as I was reading it, which I suppose serves a purpose in getting some of the feeling 'out', but the sadness just stays with me. I end up (and I am so sorry if this upsets her family or anyone reading) wishing I hadn't seen that news article today. It has such an effect on me.

I've always been told I am sensitive (usually in the context of not-in-a-good-way) I just wondered how 'normal' people feel when they read this stuff. Do you have a lever that enables you to flick channels in your mind as it were, to something less saddening?
Or do you rationalise it as something which is not really your business? So you feel sad, but realise you can't do anything about it so you move on. Or do you busy yourself while this article is on television, so that it doesn’t really infiltrate?

I’m asking for many reasons, but one of them is that I wonder more and more in my life the way I’m perceived (I have good reason to wonder). I question whether my thought processes are not the same as most people’s .. so people think I’m odd.

Clearly here I’m not coming across as a bundle of laughs; I mean does me feeling so very sad for the Gould family and friends serve any purpose or help them in any way.

If anyone could point me in the direction of writing about this I’d be interested to look at it, thanks, but I’d also be grateful for anyone sharing their feelings.

Just me then?

I suggest you get your post amended so you at least get the poor girls name right.

I don’t know anything about the case but sometimes a story can affect us to an unusual degree I guess. Maybe something you relate to in an unconscious way?

What do you mean about perceiving things differently, and being seen as odd? 💐

Ellie Goulding is a pop star.

I'm not sure what's happened to Ellie Goulding so it's hard to say but has it hot a personal button? So it's something that resonates with you?

Yes, I'm puzzled, too. Who do you mean ?

Report your own post to get the name right, OP.

Ellie Gould op.

#MNHQ really need to edit or delete

I have no idea what this is about and googling hasn’t helped.

Oh ok, I have figured it out. OP please ask MN to edit your post.
It is a horrific case and I’m not surprised it has affected you.

Yes, Ellie Gould. Such a heartbreaking case. I watched Murder at my Door, and, I think it is normal to feel heartbroken for her family and friends. A beautiful young girl with her whole life ahead of her. A waste of his life, too. There are no winners. I cried watching it.

Tbh op I stop reading when it gets too detailed, I don't feel like it's something I need to know, that it will help anyone to pour over the details so I don't read it.

It's a horrific case, their age, his clear intention to go and cause harm, his thinking through how to get away is chilling. No daughter should have to find their little girl like that, no parents should lose their child like that.

It's uncommon but not unusual to have this level of empathy although most do not.

There is a personality test called Myers Briggs which was, in the early 90s, used by some companies for recruitment. If you read up about an INTJ personality you may find this resonates with you. Or you may not. Personality is much more complicated than can be defined by this type of personality test but they can be interesting to read.

Profuse apologies to both the pop star and the victim for getting the name incorrect.
Genuine mistake. Didn’t mean to cause more distress.

Op report your OP and ask MNHQ to correct

Thank you for responding. I’ve done the BriggsMyers test and came out INFJ.
SleepingStandingUp. Yes I wish I hadn’t read the details. Her dad walking into the kitchen haunts me.

i do think it's worth working out why its haunting you, is there other stuff going on in your life that this triggers, stuff in the past? unresolved grief or pain that this is kind of distracting / replacing? i don't expect you to answer it, but worth considering

I protect myself. I don't read news articles I think are going to haunt me - I know that horrific things happen but don't need to go about imagining them.

@dinosforall

I protect myself. I don't read news articles I think are going to haunt me - I know that horrific things happen but don't need to go about imagining them.

This. Don't try to analyse why it bothers you.

I don't know the name btw.

Just don't read this stuff.

@toignoreornotignorethatisthequ

Just me then?

You waited such a long time for potential posters (who may also have not known about this tragic case) to read your post, consider it and then respond with empathy. 12 minutes! For them to wrack up a good account of why you feel so shit about someone else's grief after murder.

You're looking at this the wrong way around.

@MNHQ, you should probably have looked at the entire OP. There was more than one typo ...

I'm the same. I made the mistake of looking up some cases that were discussed on here a while ago and I'm not exaggerating when I say I think about them most days. Certain details have utterly haunted me

. I was watching Breakfast this morning and her mother was interviewed. The poor woman wears an expression you might expect someone whose precious child who has been brutally murdered in the prime of life to wear; but she spoke with great clarity.

🤔

Well, I knew nothing about this case till I googled it. Yes, things upset me a lot, so I deliberately stay away from those articles.

I don't read stuff like that, and to PP upthread Myers Briggs is till used all the time now!