Infertility

[Sparklesss]

I wanted to post on here because it feels like a safe place to do so. I have tried to have babies for over 5 years and im pretty sure im infertile. We tried various different therapies techniques and even went to a clinic and wasted away money we didnt have. Im now single and hes left me for a healthy fertile beautiful looking woman. I just feel like a failure as a woman. Its always been my dream to have children. Ive worked as a nursery nurse my entire life and now cant even face work. Everyone around me is getting pregnant. I feel inadequete and really depressed. I dont want to foster and im pretty sure im not eligable to adopt or foster. I dont have any family at all or friends to be honest. I dont drive. An i dont fit the criteria for other reasons either. I just i feel so lost alone an upset. The final nail in the coffin came last week when a neighbour who has been bullying and harrasing me for months announced to everyone she is pregnant. Shes always drunk an nasty to everyone and her other half has also been threatening an harrasing people in our building. They constantly gossip an bitch about people and they always call me a wierdo and a freak. It makes me question my religion because i think why has god given those people a baby an not me. I just im really rock bottom. I needed to vent so sorry about the incredible length of this post.

Hi @Sparklesss

Ask MNHQ to pop this over to the Infertility section. You’ll get lots of support over there x

Hi there - first time using Mumsnet after reading lots of threads so hoping maybe someone might have some advice/ similar experience?

I’m 29, have no health issues (partner same) regular periods etc. Came off the pill 3/4 years ago and wasn’t getting pregnant.

Tests done at Homerton fertility clinic - everything came back fine. Sperm test fine, I had a laparoscopy - all fine.

I’ve just failed my second transfer. First fresh cycle produced 9 eggs, 5 fertilised and 3 were top quality I was told (they kept going on about how great they were). So implanted one and froze two. First round failed.

Have just found out my second round failed - I was taking cyclogest and progynova.

I now have one go left on the NHS with this last frozen supposedly top quality embryo but I just don’t know why it’s not working - and I’m not convinced doing the same thing again and hoping for the best is sensible. Is it just pot luck?

Wondering whether anyone else has had a similar issue - they keep telling me I’m so young that I shouldn’t worry and yet it isn’t working.

Thanks

It can take 3 rounds of Transfers to hit the best stats to conceive. Are they investigating as to each round failing and coming up with new ideas each time? I know there's so many 'ways' to do IVF and different drugs / endometrial scratches / PGS testing the embryos etc. Are they building new steps after each failed round?

Hi 1940s - thanks for your reply - no, to be honest after the first round failed they just said they had no idea why it failed and suggested maybe there was a genetic problem with the embryo - bad luck.

So the first round we did no progynova, just injections and cyclogest. The second round was frozen so much quicker no injections. However I did have to have a trigger injection because I was growing an egg at the same time so they wanted to prevent that from interfering. In short, the second round didn’t change much.

I’m now thinking there might be something wrong with my batch of embryos!? So I might ask if this third go can be done on a fresh cycle to rule out that problem.

Homerton are very good in some ways but I also feel pretty in the dark about it all - and sometimes feel a little dismissed because I’m young (relatively speaking on the fertility issues age spectrum). But surely it doesn’t matter what age you are, if it’s not working it’s not working. It’s a bit hard to keep your head above water with it all.

Hi all

I'm just looking for some advice as to where to start my journey. I have been with my partner for 12 years and never once fell pregnant. In the past couple of years we have been actively trying. How do i start investigations and what advice do you have. Thank u xx

@Elephanttrunk93 go to the doctor ASAP. You've been actively trying for over a year so they will start investigations. Will start with blood tests and then progress to referrals to fertility clinics. If your over 35 and can afford it go straight to a private fertility clinic to get things done faster. Good luck!

@ffsgivemestrength thank you for your speedy reply. I will make an appointment with my gp ASAP.