Mother's Day?

[mamaof2girls]

Quick question for people do you buy like the grans/nana presents on Mother's Day from the grandkids? I have 2 kids but something seems to make me a bit like well why should they get card etc from grandkids when it's me who raises them? Plus then they also get a card etc from their actual kids am I wrong in thinking this?

Many people do, I chose not to. Horses for courses

Grandparents have their own day, 3 October this year.

The children send their grandmothers a card each. DH and I club together with our respective siblings to buy our own mothers some flowers or a small gift.

I do because my parents are my childcare when I'm at work so i like to show appreciation in anyway I can. But everyone has different circumstances!

I never did that as a child for my own grandmothers and don't do it for DS'.

My mum has an enormously positive impact on DS' life, for which I'm thrilled about and very grateful, but I'm his mother.

Making a card is an activity with a purpose. I offer light encouragement to make a card. It doesn't mean anyone thinks that the grans raise my children, and it doesn't take anything away from me. It just gives the kids something nice to do for 5 mins / 20 mins.

I do because my mum and ds are very close and spend lots of time together . She helps out a lot as I am a sp

My kids are young and I have a memory off a gold fish maybe the first year I did give them a card last year I didn't just with everything going on and being pregnant worrying about everything but when I think back I have never gave my dad a Father's Day from my kids!

I get a card for grandparents but not a present; we always did growing up and I think it’s a nice gesture

I never did and I definitely don't expect anything from my GC.
It's Mothers' Day, not Grandmothers' Day. I always get something home made on my birthday from the GC I have various odd, fingerprinty little items on my mantlepiece.

@mamaof2girls

Quick question for people do you buy like the grans/nana presents on Mother's Day from the grandkids? I have 2 kids but something seems to make me a bit like well why should they get card etc from grandkids when it's me who raises them? Plus then they also get a card etc from their actual kids am I wrong in thinking this?

Really?

So because it's a grandparent and they're not raising the grandchildren, they shouldn't receive a simple card or homemade gift?

That sort of attitude, when the grandparents are involved and not problematic, makes me feel so sad. Are you really so insecure as a mother?

Wow, for many years, we gave our elderly Childless aunts cards too. To just be nice and to say we thought of them and loved them! And I know that my mother wasn't a tiny bit jealous, concerned or miffed!

DH and I deal with our own parents as parents, not as DGPs.

He will sort out something for MIL from him and help DS(7) do whatever he wants for me.

MIL also does our childcare but we show appreciation in other ways. Plus DS hates making cards

I always bought my nan a gift and card and now my son makes her a gift (so great nanny to him!).

Mil loves the cards and stuff from her gc’s much more than anything from her ds so we always get dc to make cards and a small gift.
It’s just a day that seems to have evolved to appreciate all mothers so why not?

My kids are only 2 and 10 months so not really into making cards or anything like that at the moment! X

No my DC don't do anything for my DM on Mother's Day.
I guess if my DPs were involved a lot in childcare that could be different.

Surely it should be just YOUR mother, if not where will it stop, neighbour's mother, the cat's mother, Holy Mother of God, ?

I suspect the card manufacturers are behind it, well them and the people selling roses at traffic lights.

My dds make cards for their grandmothers.

My mum helps out with them loads and my dh is bloody useless but I'd still like MIL to receive something without me mothering him so the dds do one. They love crafting so they're more then happy to make them

I buy my mum stuff for Mother's Day from me and also my daughter (nan card, few gifts etc).
My mum also buys me stuff for Mother's Day and has always done since my daughter was born (she's 15 now).
It's a day we all look forward to and meet up for a meal and day out etc. Each to their own but we all enjoy it. I usually also buy my Dad's wife something.
We are a family who like giving gifts and celebrating occasions though.

My 2 are 2.5 and 3.5 years.

I've always sent cards to both sets of GP's in Mother's Day and Father's Day.

We did a vase with baby handprints on once. And framed a "painting" all sentimental stuff which they loved.

Not much money and only a little effort for people who pick up the slack when it gets tough.

It never occurred to me to send my mother a card from my children on Mother's Day. She was my mother, not theirs, so the card came from me.

Similarly my mother in law had a card from my husband, because she was his mother.

We have always sent grandparents cards on Mothers / Fathers Day. They are a big part of their lives, it's a small gesture which is really greatly appreciated by both sets of grandparents.

We don't acknowledge grandparents day.