Gifts

[AtLastEarwax]

Urgh, so Mother's Day. My mum has everything so very hard to buy for anyway

She collects jugs - fuck knows why - so I've bought her a really unusual one from a designer

Got a personalised notepad and pen from the kids for her to use at work or working from home. Will get them to make something as well

Asked my sister what she has got her and she's got her some posh earrings and a leather purse

Now what do I do? Do I get her something else? And what do I get her?? I thought I had really got something good and then my sister comes along with her presents, would have to be more than one. Would HAVE to be.

Just makes me look a bit pathetic doesn't it? I know it's not a competition but my mum will know my sister has spent twice as much on her than me

It's not the money, it's the thought.
Though we are a card & flowers family, so what do I know.

Imo your Sister has gone overboard.
Your gifts sound great.
Leave it at that.

Your presents sound more personal. I wouldn't get into a competition. I am more than happy with a card and a few flowers. I would hope your mum isn't grabby . Sometimes spending more money means less thought goes into it.

Eh? Your post sounds insane. Whatever happened to bunches of flowers and a card? Who's to know how much a designer jug costs anyway, or whether or not it's more or less than earrings and a purse.

Your DM has everything, no-one needs all this stuff and if they want it, they can buy it themselves.

Honestly, agree to just give flowers, chocs, fizz etc on Mother's Day and birthday, maybe go out for Sunday lunch, cocktails, afternoon tea together (in normal times obviously) or whatever and save yourself a load of stress and money.

I usually get my mum a card and a bunch of daffodils. I didn't know people bought super expensive presents for Mother's Day !

Well it'll probably be that she's spent more money 'bless her' (mums reaction)

DH has made a good point though and said well she chose to. No one made her spend that money. We've got three children to raise and she's got a gift off them too.

My sister always have to do the best though, fucks me off

You sound very bitter!

You sound like you don’t like your sister much.

It’s not a competition, it’s a mother’s day gift to your mum.

My SIL is a bit like this, your gift to mum is more expensive than mine you want to steal my mum away from me. So I usually suggest we buy MIL something together which tends to be lower value than we’d normally buy but stops SIL making every celebration about herself.

If you react like this to gifts your sister gives, don’t ask your sister what she’s giving it will save you a lot of upset in future.

I think you both sound OTT, why are you in competition with each other?

I wouldn't dream of 'calculating' the cost or volume of the gifts my siblings give to my parents.

Equally we don't 'do' Mother's Day gifts ... I am thinking of giving my DM a charity type gift that supports mothers and babies ... she will genuinely like that idea, I have no wish for my teenage DS to buy me a gift - a phone call or a card would be nice but I am really not that bothered.... care more about the fact he is (generally) a well mannered, happy teenager than just buying something 'on the day'.

I think this is much more about your sister than what your mum would like. Don't put your mum in the middle of your resentment.

@idontlikealdi

You sound very bitter!

And not rich enough to spend more!

It's resentment to my sister as I know she'll get the 'bless her for treating me' comments etc