I hugged my mum

[Avelandra]

And I don’t regret it one bit. My lovely, lovely 58 year old dad had a brain hemorrhage and dropped dead yesterday morning. He was a doctor and had been a real stickler for the rules. I hadn’t hugged him for over a year and now I never will again. When I saw my mum I couldn’t just leave her and stay away

I don’t even know why I’m writing this. Maybe just to try and make sense of how cruel and unfair life is

There are some things in the world that all the counselling and all the meds can't even compare to. One of them is a hug when you're upset and especially grieving. I'm pleased you hugged your mum, I'd have done the same x

I am so sorry for your loss your DF was taken far too soon. I would be making the same decision as you to hug my mum. I hugged my friend when her DF passed recently.
I don’t think transmission would be that high from a quick sensible hug anyway.
I had Covid twice and before I realised had been hugging my DD and DH and neither of them were poorly.
I’m not saying generally the rules are sensible but I think we went too far where compassion should have come in V risk.

I'm so sorry about your dad. Can you form a support bubble with your mum, then you can hug her all the time?

What a huge shock for you all. Sending love and energy.

So sorry for your loss ave

Of course you hugged your mum and so you should. What have we become where its even in question even when someone passed away.

100% YANBU

I stick to the rules but there are absolutely circumstances where the rules should not apply. I hope you give your mum many more hugs.

I’m very sorry for your loss.

@2020BogOff

So glad you and your DM got a hug OP.

I never understand the 'what if you gave them covid and died'. Ummm but what if they got covid and died without a hug? That to me is far worse so if both of you want a hug then hug

This. I lost a parent suddenly, many years ago. Life doesn't come with warnings and guarentees sp we need to do the hugs while we can, and especially when in distress and the physical contact of love is needed for comfort.

So sorry for your loss OP.

Ignore any person that mentions the rules. I'm so so sorry about your dad and of course hug your mum. What a terrible shock you've both had. It is completely natural to take comfort from each other. Anyone saying otherwise needs their head checked and needs to try and walk in someone else's shoes.

So sorry for your loss OP. Please don’t shift your focus from trying to be super kind to yourself during those brutal times.