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I can't cope with my neighbour and no one will help

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crispychicken12 · 27/02/2021 07:22

This is night 4 of constant day/night partying.

We live in a terraced property, she had had the police round every day due to custody issues. The dad (separated) is concerned for their son. She ships her son off to her parents house daily.

She then continues to have all kinds of people in her house with music as loud as a night club, they spill out into the street. There is a smashed tv screen in the middle of the street??

I call the police, as do other neighbours. They come out hours later, 3am I'd reached breaking point and called the police to hear them laughing and joking.

She has social services involved, the police are involved daily. She's 19 and has been physically aggressive when I've approached her at 4am at one point to ask for her to lower her music because I had a newborn. She accused me of being an alcoholic?

She's out of control. I get no sleep, thankfully my DS somehow sleeps through it most of the time. I'm a student nurse and I work long hours and I'm 16 weeks pregnant, the lack of sleep is honestly starting to effect my mental health.

What can I do? She's privately renting, landlord was in tears outside their house last week, idk why. Police aren't interested, council advise to keep contacting the police.

I've had enough. I'm not in a position to sell until I get my degree in 2023.

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StrongTea · 27/02/2021 07:27

What a nightmare. Can you contact the landlord yourself? Wonder if he is trying to evict her but difficult at the moment.

Covidcorvid · 27/02/2021 07:30

If the landlord was in tears that sounds promising......will they evict her? Doesn’t sound like she’ll be there long.

Noise cancelling headphones might help even if they don’t take all the noise away? I have some due to noisy neighbours and they are good, I can’t sleep in mine though as they’re over the ear ones and I’m a side sleeper.

huitlacoche · 27/02/2021 07:30

I've been in your boat Sadit is soul destroying. It sounds like the landlord is trying to evict her so it won't be forever. The usual advice is call the council/police... it often doesn't work for weeks or months. The alternative is to take matters into your own hands with some sort of creative revenge but it doesn't sound like you have the time or energy for that!
Landlords are allowed to evict for anti social behaviour still so I would go down that route and contact the landlord - make it their problem

LoudestCat14 · 27/02/2021 07:31

It sounds as though the landlord is acutely aware of the issues but at the moment you can't evict anyone due to Covid. That new rule is only in place until March 31 though, so talk to the landlord to make sure they'll be serving notice that day. If you know there's an endgame, it might make it easier to deal with.

ChameleonClara · 27/02/2021 07:32

This is horrible for you Flowers Try to calm yourself to limit the impact on you.

It is excellent news she is a tenant not an owner - if the landlord is upset then this will end eventually.

Keep a diary in case needed. Report to the police every time.

How lucky your child is to only live next door temporarily to this person. Her children are stuck with her.

Do you own or rent?

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crispychicken12 · 27/02/2021 07:46

The landlord is trying, recently she left the property and her DS and boyfriend stayed and life was bliss for us as they're lovely neighbours

The house was then broken into and trashed, now she's back and the boyfriend has subsequently moved.

Landlord's wife was so distressed and said it's keeping her up at night.

I haven't got a way to contact them.

I'm keeping a diary and won't have any contact with her alone as she makes horrendous accusations and is aggressive

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crispychicken12 · 27/02/2021 07:48

I own, but I'm not in a position to sell until I could be sure I could secure a mortgage. DH works full time and I'm a first year student nurse.

I'll be fully able to sell after I graduate and have a paid job.

The thought of experiencing this with a newborn (due august) is making me sick.

I'm so stressed out about it all it's horrible

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ChameleonClara · 27/02/2021 07:49

If you see the landlord again ask for contact details and say you're happy to update them. Ask your other neighbours if they have the landlords details.

Do you own or rent?

Covidcorvid · 27/02/2021 07:51

Just remember when you come to sell if the same neighbour is still there you have to disclose this if you’ve rung the police, etc. Hopefully she goes first.

ChameleonClara · 27/02/2021 07:56

Sorry x-ed messages, I see you own.

Not to belittle the experience (I understand, many years ago had terrifying neighbourhood issues including repeated break ins Shock) but you are relatively speaking in an optimistic position as the landlord wants them out.

I think your best approach mental health wise now is to look at all self-calming and all possible mitigation. What does your partner think, how does he find it?

JerichoGirl · 27/02/2021 07:58

Look out for the landlord and speak to them, this is your chance.

I was once in a situation like yours in that the noise and disruption was unbearable but we were fortunate in that we rented from same landlord as offending neighbour.

We called noise control EVERY TIME. They responded by harassing us by ordering taxis, pizzas etc for our apartment.

We wrote to landlord. We kept a note of the call outs.

Landlord sympathised, gave them a written warning.

About three days later they had another party, left a note under our door begging us not to report them. I immediately sent it to landlord and he evicted them. Such a relief.

Oh I feel for you. I was pregnant/sick/hormonal/working and I struggled to manage without sleep and with the worry of knowing the noise could start up again at any time. It nearly drove me crazy and quite frankly I can see how neighbours can end up in terrible disputes.

Sportsnight · 27/02/2021 08:07

If you’re in the UK, call the police during the day stressing that she’s breaking Covid legislation. Don’t leave it til 3am, phone at the first sign of people gathering.

Ifailed · 27/02/2021 08:17

called the police to hear them laughing and joking.
That's odd. In the UK all 999 calls are recorded.

user1471538283 · 27/02/2021 08:18

Oh my goodness how awful! Unfortunately it is a long road however, you are fortunate in that the landlord wants her out as well.

Keep telephoning the police and logging everything. Keep onto the landlord.

Is there anyway you can sell and move maybe into rented accommodation. This is affecting your health

People like your neighbour make me sick. You are both working hard in the middle of a pandemic and she's like this.

solicitoring · 27/02/2021 08:33

Police, council, landlord, social services, mp and repeat. Her poor child. Years ago when I was expecting my first child the flat share under my flat made me have to move. I had loved that flat for 6 years but the constant partying (trainee teachers) and loud music and doors slamming very late at night was horrendous. Bass so loud that the pictures on my wall rattled. I was a similar age to them, they were just rude fuckers. I had the landlords number so took to calling him in the middle of the night when they were "partying". Eventually he evicted them but it was all tainted for me by then and I was completely over sensitive to any noise. This was precovid. You have more options.

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crispychicken12 · 27/02/2021 08:34

@Sportsnight police had already been out during the day, it's so stressful. She literally had about 25 people in her house and nothing was done

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crispychicken12 · 27/02/2021 08:35

@Ifailed no, sorry I've worded it wrong. The police came out at 5am after I'd called at 3am and the police where outside laughing and joking with her

I didn't hear them down the phone laughing or anything, just seemingly not taking it serious.

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lightlypoached · 27/02/2021 08:37

If the police aren't taking action, you need to raise a formal complaint. If you can, visit the local police station and ask to speak to the senior officer in charge and make the complaint formal. They need to act. This is both a covid risk and a nuisance, and probably a lot more besides.

Good luck.

MagdasMadHouse · 27/02/2021 09:02

If she can't be evicted I'm not exactly sure what can be done? I wouldn't worry about this still going on in August though, I imagine she will be evicted ASAP once they are allowed again

Stratfordplace · 27/02/2021 09:07

Why are the police not arresting them for breaching Covid laws. I would escalate this to the Duty inspector at your local police station.

user1493494961 · 27/02/2021 09:26

Get in touch with your MP.

Realhousewivesoftatooine · 27/02/2021 09:41

Been in a similar situation when I was pregnant, I honestly thought they’d never move. I had the police, council and a local councillor involved all we got told from the council was to have mediation with them. Luckily for you the landlord also wants them out so hopefully it’ll get resolved a bit quicker for you. Like a pp said I’m so over sensitive to noise now.

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