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How the hell do you organise a wedding?

15 replies

bloodywhitecat · 26/02/2021 12:55

A small affair, just our kids (adults), their partners and a few friends, especially in a pandemic? DP is dying and we want to get wed but I don't even know where to start. When can we start or are we doomed due to all weddings being off?

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Sosigsandwich · 26/02/2021 14:13

Best place to start is deciding where you would like to marry then ask for available dates. You can have 15 guests from 12th April and 30 from 17th May. Then once you have a venue and date you can invite guests. After that you need outfits, flowers, cake and rings. Don't forget that you need to get your bans read a certain amount of time beforehand. If memory serves its within a year but no less than 1 month before.

Fazabulous · 26/02/2021 14:41

@bloodywhitecat
Really sorry to hear this, sounds incredibly stressful. You can have a wedding now with up to 6 people if exceptional circumstances; I would suggest ringing your local registration office

Monkeypeas · 26/02/2021 14:45

I’m so sorry about your DP, do you know how long he has left?

At the moment you can’t actually book a wedding due to lockdown but there are special circumstances for people.
I’d firstly contact your registrar and explain your circumstances and ask what the availability is.

You also need a venue, either the registrars office / town hall or look on your city council website as they may well have licensed premises such as a museum or guild hall. Contact them for availability.

If you have a hotel type venue in mind then contact them for their availability and maybe consider a week day, with almost all 2020 weddings pushed back to this year, many venues if that nature are already fully booked for weekends.

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StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 26/02/2021 14:47

Contact the registrar.

murbblurb · 26/02/2021 14:53

I'm so sorry. Contact registrar for help.

You don't need outfits, cake, rings, flowers etc. Don't make work for yourself in these difficult times.

parietal · 26/02/2021 15:02

contact the registrar.

pick one or two wedding things that matter to you - maybe a photographer + rings? get those lined up & then invite people. That is all you need.

If you want food etc, maybe pick a sensible relative and ask them if they can organise it. so you can spend your time with DH & kids.

RoseyOldCrow · 26/02/2021 15:11

So sorry for you & your DP's situation, bloodywhitecat 💐
I agree with the Registrar as a source of help.

(When you do get the date, if there is anything that you want, please consider posting on here - I'm sure there are many MNers who have lots we could contribute to your "borrowed" list, or provide flowers, decorations, whatever you want. Obviously lockdown may bring some logistical challenges, but I'm sure our combined creativity would triumph 💑)

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bloodywhitecat · 26/02/2021 15:32

Thank you all, he was told six months back in Nov but his cancer is more common in people a good 20 years older than him so who knows. He has his first scan after his initial rounds of chemo next weekend and he gets the results at the end of March but we know it has already spread to his liver.

OP posts:
Lochmorlich · 26/02/2021 15:35

Sorry your dp is ill.
In your circumstances weddings can go ahead.
Approach your registrar for advice.

TurquoiseDragon · 26/02/2021 16:45

I'd go to the registrar first, and ask for advice. Weddings can still take place under a number of restrictions, but the registrar will have the info on what applies and when restrictions will be eased.

Silkies · 26/02/2021 18:34

It's up to 6 people from 29 March then 15 people from 12 April and up to 30 17 May though it maybe you could have more join by video. I would contact a church or where you would like the wedding to be.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/explainers-52530518

If you are looking for before 29 March I think it is possible at the moment in exceptional circumstances which yours would come under. There's a MN Weddings board.

Woodlandbelle · 26/02/2021 18:35
Flowers

Best wishes

AllMyPrettyOnes · 26/02/2021 18:36

Weddings in exceptional circumstances can take place now (well, in registry offices anyway). I was looking up weddings a few weeks back, and it said exceptional circumstances, such as yours, can occur.

Very sorry to hear about your DH. I hope you can get a lovely little wedding sorted. Flowers

PurBal · 26/02/2021 18:43

If your partner is dying you can get married as soon as you can arrange the legal bits. So probably in about a week. If a church wedding contact the church, arrange a common license (his avoids the 3 weeks required for banns) and you can have 6 people (bride, groom, 2 witnesses and guests). You can still get married in lockdown if there are exceptional circumstances. Sorry you're going through this.

Soontobeseller · 26/02/2021 18:45

So sorry OP.
I would just sort out the bits I really cared about - in your situation there really wouldn’t be much.

I hope you have a lovely lovely day.

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