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Am I right in thinking Instagram shows you more of what you’ve clicked on?

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Risk80 · 25/02/2021 21:05

In the app, when you click the magnifying glass, if it’s full of flower arranging and triathlon clips, that means you’ve been clicking on and watching flower arranging and triathlon videos, right?

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Mustardbay · 25/02/2021 21:11

I think so mainly, but I still get random rubbish. I'm guessing naked women on your partners Instagram?

Brogues · 25/02/2021 21:13

Yes but also some really random stuff that I’ve definitely never clicked on (or paused on) because that had an impact too for me when I tested it) before.

Fabpinky · 25/02/2021 21:14

Basically yes

SendMeHome · 25/02/2021 21:17

It’s not quite as simple as that... it does show you more of what you’ve engaged with; but it also shows you things that it thinks you could be interested in. For example, I get a lot of infertility stuff in my Explore page on Instagram... I’m not infertile, nor have I ever engaged with anything like that.

I work with them and it’s a complicated algorithm, that’s led by what they expect you to be interested in - so generally but not entirely things that you’ve engaged with before.

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Risk80 · 25/02/2021 21:20

@Mustardbay

I think so mainly, but I still get random rubbish. I'm guessing naked women on your partners Instagram?
Not quite naked but you’re on the right likes.

It’s full of clips of content related to his favourite football team and scantily clad women with their arses out. It also says in the last 7 days he has spent an average of 50 minutes a day on there.

I said to him, you know it only shows what you click on, right? And asked if he’d been clicking on that kind of stuff, he replied rather weakly, “no!”

He won’t have sex with me.

I’m gutted.

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WetJan · 25/02/2021 21:23

I'm also guessing the algorithms will suggest things that other people who are interested in his football club like? So if 100 Man U fans also click on pics of girls in their underwear, it will assume all Man U fans like that and will suggest it?

Palavah · 25/02/2021 21:24

Not necessarily. It will show you stuff it thinks you like based on

  • Accounts you already follow, especially those you interact with
  • stuff that people you follow like
  • people who follow the same people as you also follow x, Y, z
  • stuff you've liked on FB or searched for on google etc, other sites you visit
-stuff you've searched for on google.

So, default is women get fashion, weight loss and celebs. Men get football and tits.

It doesn't prove he's been searching for tits, but it doesn't prove he hasn't.

Palavah · 25/02/2021 21:25

I'd focus more on how he is with you, tbh.

If you want sex why are you with someone who won't have sex with you?

Whyistheteacold · 25/02/2021 21:27

It's based on a multitude of things, for example the fact that he is a man and his age range will already influence what is shown. The area you live in, and as a PP said the fact that he follows football club. They will show things that other people who follow the same club like.

Also it can be based on images or pages that you have liked in the past, even if he hasn't liked anything like it recently (I.e before you were together).

Is there a reason that you are checking how long he is on Instagram for or trying to catch him out like this? I think that your lack of trust or respect for his privacy is an issue, do you feel able to talk to him about whatever it is that is making you feel that you need to monitor him?

idontlikealdi · 25/02/2021 21:46

Sorry to say but it willl link into other things like Facebook and WhatsApp

FKW112 · 25/02/2021 22:07

I do think it could just be showing what it thinks he would like. Mine includes make up and hair tutorials but I've never watched anything like that or even searched for those products online.

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Risk80 · 25/02/2021 22:40

@idontlikealdi

Sorry to say but it willl link into other things like Facebook and WhatsApp
He’s doesn’t have FB or WhatsApp.

I wasn’t snooping; we were chatting about something on TV and I wanted to show him a related thing on Instagram I’d seen. His phone was closest!

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Crinkle77 · 25/02/2021 23:09

@Palavah

I'd focus more on how he is with you, tbh.

If you want sex why are you with someone who won't have sex with you?

Don't be so judgemental. It's not as straightforward as that. We don't know how long this has been going or if there are reasons why he may have gone off sex. You don't dump people as soon as you got a problem in your relationship.
Whyistheteacold · 26/02/2021 07:28

Well that's not entirely true is it 🙄 the "time spent on Instagram" is hidden away in the activity data in the settings, you wouldn't see it by going on Instagram to search something.

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Risk80 · 26/02/2021 13:27

@Whyistheteacold

Well that's not entirely true is it 🙄 the "time spent on Instagram" is hidden away in the activity data in the settings, you wouldn't see it by going on Instagram to search something.
It’s absolutely true. Once I saw what the explorer was suggesting, then I saw what the daily time spent was. Which isn’t really that deep into settings but hey, thanks for your support Smile
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Sosigsandwich · 26/02/2021 14:09

I get a LOT of random people's pregnancy announcements, no idea why. My husband gets handbags 🤣

Norwaydidnthappen · 26/02/2021 15:36

The internet works like this in general. You will notice adverts for websites you have recently been on for example, it’s just cookies.

It could be that he’s been looking at those images or could be that people who look at images he does also like those sort of photos iykwim. They tend to suggest things they think you will like which can just be because other people who like Arsenal also like naked women.

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