Are you taking any antidepressants,how have they made you feel better

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I’ve spent most of my adult life battling to manage without them ,as they ruin my sex life ,can’t orgasm on them .
But I’m at the point where I might have to sacrifice my sex life for my mental health
Are there any that don’t effect your ability to orgasm ,??
And will they help me get a hair wash / shower / hold a conversation

Anyone

Anti depressants help the fog to lift but they can’t turn you into a different person. So for example, one person might do their make up and wash/style their hair every day and that is important to them for their mental health. And if they stopped doing it, it might mean they’re depressed. Once treated they may well go back to “normal”. With me, I’m not particularly fussed about those things, depressed or not ( I run a brush through my hair each day but that’s all, wash hair about once a week, no make up). So anti depressants didn’t turn me from who I am into the first person in my example, iyswim?

So your specific examples will depend on how you are when you’re not depressed. For me they stop me feeling suicidal and being in a pit of despair. They’ve never affected me sexually, so I can’t really answer that part. But there are various ones out there so you could try a different one to those you’ve tried previously.

Escitalopram is better than the others. I've taken all of the SSRIs in my time and the Escitalopram is definitely the best in terms of sex response.

Thankyou,
I just spend all day waiting to go to bed ..dread getting up in the morning
.prozac I had ,that killed my sex life and a couple of others literally after the first tablet as well

Escitalopram is the only one I’ve ever been on, and it gave me my life back!

I take citalopram and they have literally saved my life. I'd be dead by now without them.
I live alone and choose to be celibate so I don't care about my sex life, but yes they do blunt it. I had to choose, life or sex.

How old are you? Could peri-menopause be a factor?

I have the lack of sex drive a few upsetting, well lack of drive and I can't orgasm either it's a nightmare. However I was anxious wreck before I start taking him taking

Citalopramnis great and definitely does not affect your sex life!

I’m married,so if I’m not wanting sex ,that puts pressure on things ,you know what I mean ,but also me being depressed is putting pressure on things ..it’s literally been every single antidepressant has the Same effect ..so I just come of them ,or don’t get past day 4 on them

I’m nearly 50 ,but I’ve been like this my whole life ,so not menopause

I think that investigating if you might have hormonal issues, and that you may have had them your whole life, could hep. I would see an endocrinologist.

Try a different class of antidepressant. Which have you already tried?

“ so I just come of them ,or don’t get past day 4 on them”

You need to give them time. Initially the side effects affect you, but after a week or two they subside.
That’s my experience anyway.

Are you saying your DH can’t wait longer than 4 days for your meds to work properly and give you a chance at stabilising your emotions? You really haven’t given any of them a chance and I’m a bit horrified if it’s the sex aspect after only 3-4 days.

I could've written this myself, my husband is understanding the fact is I have no desire whatsoever for any physical contact which as you say cause its own problems.

I would say though it's worth taking the tablets as mental health is so important.

I am on Fluoxetine, I have taken in the past and they didn't have this affect so it was a bit of a shock this time

I'm also on citalopram, I'm "normal" on them now!
Took a couple of weeks or so to kick in mind you.

Orgasm wise it takes a bit longer "manually" , but can get there.
A vibrator gets me there faster or if "manually" just isn't doing it.

It’s other side effects as well ,after 4 days ,they seem to turn me in to a zombie with no emotion,no fast reactions,can’t laugh can’t cry .
I’m just trying to work out if all that is worse than being depressed
Probably should not of started this thread ,no one can really tell me what to do ...but I’ve been to the doctors 3 times in last 18 months and been given tablets I’ve not managed to keep taking ...they probably won’t give me anything else ....I hate all the side effects of tablets ,but I hate feeling like this as well...